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Aptavani-2
Vyavahar : Worldly interactions
This world is not in the form of justice; it is in the form of worldly interactions. The Lord has said not to seek justice otherwise the intellect (buddhi) will become deluded and spoilt. Look at the worldly interactions (vyavahar) but do not look for justice in it. This means you should not be looking for justice in vyavahar. Whatever the vyavahar, it is what it is. You have to understand this much
Let me explain to you what 'we' mean by, 'whatever the vyavahar, it is what it is. 'If your son is getting married and you do not send gifts and sweets to your brother, would you have expectations of receiving anything from him when his son gets married? No, you would not, because that is the kind of vyavahar (exchange; dealing) you had with him. If one brother sends you sixteen ladus (Indian sweet balls) and the other sends you only three, then your understanding should be, 'I may not remember it today, but I must have sent him only three ladus. My vyavahar with him must have been the same and that is why he is reciprocating with only three ladus. 'You should not look for justice in vyavahar. Vyavahar is nothing but vyavahar. It is what it is.
Once this fan was running at full speed and 'we' asked someone to reduce the speed, not being aware that the speed regulator was not working. When they informed 'us' that the fan could not run any slower, 'we' immediately understood that the fan's vyavahar was as it is so why bother looking to change it?
Whatever vyavahar there is with children at home, accept it as it is. Why go looking for justice there? If a woman's
husband gives her a hard time, should she divorce him? Worldly interactions are this way, why do you look for justice in that?
You have dealings with many people. You should understand that you have brought positive vyavahar with those you have positive dealings and a negative vyavahar with those you have negative dealings. If one of your daughters talks back at you, that is the vyavahar, so where would you look for justice in that? And your other daughter will massage your legs even when you are not tired. That too is vyavahar, so do not look for justice in that either
People become trapped when they look for justice. Vyavahar will keep unfolding and you will get exactly what you have brought with you from your past life. Justice will tell you, “He should be like this or like that." Who is the justice for? Justice (natural justice, not worldly justice) is for those who understand and accept, 'I am the one at fault, the mistake is mine, and it is there to help them break that mistake. For the one who believes, 'I never make mistakes' there is vyavahar to make them understand. Justice is common law. Those who want liberation will have to proceed by looking at justice, what is right and what is wrong. Those who care nothing about attaining liberation and want to remain in the worldly life, have nothing to do with this common law. Justice is the thermometer (gauge). All one has to do is to check to see what is just and what is unjust. If you remain within the natural laws of justice, you will attain a higher birth and if you violate it, you will go lower
Questioner : Is speech not the problem in this era of this current time cycle?
Dadashri : You should simply be the knower-seer (gnata drashta) of what the other person says, whether his speech is pleasant or harsh. You should also be the knower-seer of whatever you say. If the other person is hurt by what you say, that is vyavahar. If you speak harshly, you have spoken in
