Aptavani 01

Author(s): Dada Bhagwan
Publisher: Dada Bhagwan Foundation

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one acquires the state of abuddha (no intellect), there awaits the state of Omniscience with open arms. I am without intellect and I am omniscient.
Worldly Relationships Is your relationship with your father, mother and wife
real?
Questioner : Of course it is real.
Dadashri : Then as a rule, should your father die; you should die along with him. Now how many people would do that? There exists a relation between father-mother, brothersister, wife-children, but it is not real. It is only a relative relationship. If it were real, it could never be destroyed. If a son were to tell his father, *You are an idiot', their relationship would end. His father would disown him and tell him that he does not want to see his face for as long as he lives. You even believe your wife to be yours, but what if she divorces you some day? This is what the world is like. All these are temporary adjustments. Even your own body is not yours; it too will let you down some day. If you decide to do samayik (introspection), your head may start aching or you may have a stomachache and you will not be able to do the samayik. You (the real Self) are permanent and everything else is temporary so how can there be a resolution between the two? That is why the world is trapped in such a state of confusion. As far as relatives are concerned, you should act according to your relationship with them. You should not be rigid or adamant about right and wrong if you are to sustain that relationship. Rigidity will destroy the relationship. When the other person is trying to destroy the relation, you should mend it if you want to maintain that relationship. These are all temporary relations. For example if your wife says, "Tonight there is a full moon' and you say, 'No, it is a moonless night', then the bickering will start and it will last
all night. In the morning she will be sulking and you will know that the argument is not over when she deliberately bangs the cup of tea while serving you. Instead it is better if you understand the situation when she becomes adamant. Gently turn the argument around by pretending to consult a horoscope calendar and then telling her she is right that there will be a full moon tonight. If you don't do this, the argument will get out of control and then if you were to give in suddenly, she will fall harder and you will have to bear the consequences. Instead it is better to beware from the start and let go gently.
Happiness And Misery Everyone is in search of happiness but without having decided what happiness is. 'Happiness should be such that it is never followed by any misery.' Go find one such happiness in this world. Eternal happiness, bliss is within you. Your real Self is an abode of bliss and yet you are looking for happiness in temporary things. What is this search for worldly happiness like? Let me give you an analogy. A very tall man is sleeping on the terrace on a cold winters night and he has a tiny blanket. If he covers his feet, his head gets cold and if he covers his head, his feet get cold. He spends the entire night tossing and turning. That is what pursuit of worldly happiness is like. In reality there is no such thing as misery in this world. It is merely a figment of the imagination. If you believe that jalebi, (a sweetmeat) tastes terrible, you will not enjoy it and if you believe it tastes very good, you will enjoy it. Therefore it is not real. True happiness should be the same for all. Everyone would accept it. Truth must be universal. What you may believe gives you happiness, others may find tremendously miserable. That is what this world is like.
Destiny Versus Effort People talk about fate and destiny versus independent