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free even if you so desire. Whereas achetan (non-living) is vitarag (absence of attachment-abhorrence), if you let it go, it will be gone. It will be gone as soon as you let go of it. It all depends upon you.
Sexuality is not to be invited. One's attitude towards sex should be like that of a vegetarian who is forced to eat meat, as a last resort after several days of starvation. Then it is not considered a crime of one's own volition. Sex should be indulged in as a last resort. The presence or absence of sexual indulgence is not in anyone's control. Does anyone willingly get arrested? No. Sex that is forced upon you is not considered vishaya, but thinking of or contemplating about sex, even though it has not been acted upon, is vishaya. This is the law of the Lord. When the body enjoys a sexual act, it is a discharge, but when the mind enjoys it, a seed is sown, charged for the next life for more sexual indulgence. When you become avasthit (absorbed in a vishaya), vyavasthit is inevitable (result is inevitable). There is endless torment of sexuality going on in this world. By wearing beautiful clothes and looking attractive, if you become instrumental in sowing the seed of lust in others, you become liable and will have to repay. Even if you analyze sex through your intellect, you will find it dirty. Wherever you slip (become the enjoyer), that is vishaya.
A person, who prefers death to begging for sex, can win this world. Such a unique quality indeed accounts for a very honorable life.
Desire for sex is a natural thing but to continue having desires for sex is detrimental and an obstacle in your spiritual progress.
Span of life (longevity) depends on the number of breaths; it becomes shorter as one consumes more breaths. Anger, pride, attachment, greed, lust and deceit consume more
breaths. Sexual activity leads to an enormous consumption of breaths. That is why I tell people engaged in this worldly life that if they cannot do anything it is fine, but they should at least conserve money and virya (semen, vitality). These two things are the principle foundations of the worldly life. Alcohol is considered to be harmful because it drives one towards sexuality
There are infinite numbers of vishayas. A million births will not suffice for one to enjoy them and exhaust them. I have made my mahatmas free from the vishayas (nirvishayee) despite the fact that they continue enjoying all vishayas.
Until one acquires Self-realization, one is constantly engulfed by vishayas because of the presence of the ego and the belief of doer-ship.
Those whose vishay -topic, is non-attachment, only such a person can understand a Vitarag - the Absolute, but how can those who are subject to anger, pride, attachment and greed, understand a Vitarag? If a person who is not Self-realized, were to suppress his sexuality for his entire life, he would still be vunerable to sexuality in his next life. There is no escaping sexuality without Self-realisation.
The Self is nirvishayee, so how can it enjoy any vishayas? If the Self is the enjoyer of vishaya, it would never attain liberation because enjoyment of sense-pleasure would become an integral and inseparable part of the Self, it would become a compound. This is against the principles of the function of elements. The Self can never enjoy any vishaya. It is an illusion, an exercise of the ego, when one says, 'I enjoyed'. And this is precisely why there is so much confusion and why one's spiritual progress is at a stand still. If this illusion is destroyed, one can remain nirvishayee (the Self) amidst endless vishayas of the relative world.
