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THE WAY OF LIFE
grooms with money. How can such marriages succeed ? After such a marriage, there arise between the husband and the wife all sorts of tensions, misunderstandings, quarrels and the enormity of causing physical and mental torture to the bride. On account of such things, the lives of those youngsters are torn by sorrows, agonies and anguish. Being dissatisfied with each other sometimes, such youngsters also fall into immoral ways. Marriage is not a means to earn money. Marriage is not merely a means to attain either sexual delights or mental gratifications. The purpose of marriage is to make man and woman follow the path of right conduct. The purpose of marriage is to enable man and woman to carry on their spiritual activities in a noble and stable manner. Moreover, their children also should become cultured and noble people. These are the lofty purposes of marriage.
THE "BUSINESS” OF BEAUTY AND "BANK-BALANCE”
When misunderstandings, animosities and conflicts arise between husband and wife, they go astray. In all probability such youngsters cannot keep away from immoral ways. Therefore, between husband and wife, there should be love and amity; but such amity, love and regard for each other should not originate from selfish motives. They should have the lofty ideal of sharing their joys and sorrows equally. They should be patient, kind and profoundly affectionate towards each other.
Now-a-days, when youngsters marry the girls or the boys they love and choose for their partners, beauty is given greater importance than money. The older generation gives importance to money while the younger generation gives importance to beauty or physical attraction. Even here, there are two kinds. If boys love and choose girls for their beauty, girls choose boys who are affluent.
Both these media namely money and beauty are inadequate as the basis for the choice of brides and bridegrooms. The happiness in life does not depend merely on affluence or appearance. Amity love and a noble feeling for each other do not appear on the basis of money or beauty. Supposing a young man marries a
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