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THE WAY OF LIFE
young men and young women should be extremely careful in choosing their partners, so that there might not appear any perplexity in their domestic life and so that their spiritual activities might proceed unimpeded. The following are the other three parities I would like to prescribe, as essential between the bride and the bride-groom.
1. 2. 3.
The parity of beauty or appearance. The parity of taste or preferences. The parity of food habits.
If the husband is handsome, the wife also should be beautiful. If the husband is handsome and the wife is not beautiful, at sometime or other, the wife entertains suspicion regarding her husband's loyalty to her. When her husband happens to be conversing with a beautiful lady; when he laughs while conversing with her; when he gives her some gift or presentation; at once, suspicion and jealousy flare up in the wife's mind.
It is possible that a man may not like his wife if she is not beautiful. He might have married her for the sake of money or because she is educated. But after marriage, he will not like her and he may become enamoured of some other beautiful lady because now-a-days man's fascination for beauty has greatly increased. I do not say that in olden days, men were not fascinated by beauty. Even in those days, the fascination for beauty existed but it was not so great as it is to-day. Today, it has become common for a man to discard or ignore his wife who has no beauty and to develop intimacy with some other beautiful woman.
In the same manner, if the husband is ugly and if the wife is beautiful, conflicts, unevenness and roughness would arise. She marries him, fascinated by his affluence, his mansion and his car but, she does not like him because he is ugly. She does not love him or admire him. In such a situation, the wife gets attracted towards some other good-looking man. If she becomes familiar with a good-looking man, there is every possibility of her losing her character. She may deceive her husband...
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