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DISCOURSE 33
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From the Audience : Some may not have an abnormal sexual impulse but still they seek the company of other women or prostitutes because their wives cannot give them satisfaction. Sometimes, we come across such instances also.
Maharajashri : It is possible. What you say is possible and such things have taken place. That is why, the enlightened people have described and prescribed clearly and excellently what kind of woman you should marry. So, you marry in accordance with that guidance or prescription.
From the Audience : But till now, no one has given us this kind of guidance.
Maharajashri : But if you get such a guidance, will you arrange the marriages of your sons and daughters according to that guidance or prescription ?
From the Audience: Now-a-days, we cannot arrange the marriages of our sons and daughters choosing partners for them. They choose their partners.
Maharajashri : In that case, this guidance will be useful to them. They should use this guidance if they want to prevent and escape from mutual conflicts and misunderstandings. Nowa-days, boys and girls marry the persons whom they love but ninety per cent of these love-marriages have failed because the youngsters do not know how to choose and love the person of their choice.
MARRIAGE IS NOT AT ALL A WAY TO MAKE MONEY.
You are responsible for the emergence of this false and ignoble tradition. You have begun to arrange the marriages of your sons and daughters only as a means of earning some money. Hence, Kanyavikray (The father of the girl taking money as a condition of the marriage) and Varavikray (The father of the boy taking money as a condition of the marriage) have emerged. What are those traditions ? The tradition of selling the bride prevails among some people and the tradition of selling the bridegroom prevails elsewhere. What is this "Selling ?" It is a terrible distortion of noble traditions. You buy brides and bride
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