Aptavani 06

Author(s): Dada Bhagwan
Publisher: Mahavideh Foundation

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If there is the slightest feeling of, 'He did me wrong,' then the verbal interaction with that person will be such that it will cause pain. He whose speech has improved will have a better worldly life. In this world, no one has the independent power to hurt anyone. One can never control others by means of threats. To do so is open egoism. The world bows and surrenders to the one who is without ego!
Understanding is attained when our statement fits everyone. If clashes occur, you should know that a lack of understanding has prevailed. The root cause of lack of understanding is the ego, and that ego will harass you day and night like a ghost, even when there is no external reason for it! Instead, if you have the opinion, 'I don't know anything,' it will bring everything to an end.
It is the ego that does good things. It is also the ego that does bad things. What guarantee is there that the ego that does good will not turn around and start doing bad things?
When the intellect hesitates with, 'Should I do this or not do this?' then what should one do under such circumstances? He should 'see' whether the force within for 'doing' is greater or if the force for 'not doing' is greater. If the force is greater towards 'not doing,' then he should side towards that. Then, if it was meant towards 'doing,' then scientific circumstantial evidences (vyavasthit shakti) will change it to that side.
To rush is a single fault and not to rush is double the fault. So proceed slowly at a rapid pace.
To have attachment (raag) is a single fault and to become averse to attachment (niraag) is double the fault. For worldly interactions, if one behaves with the attitude of 'I am the Soul; it is of no concern to me,' and does not pay his son's tuition; it is clearly wrong. One is not to become disinterested (niraagi) there. One has to settle the situation without becoming affected. 21
You are to please the other person; you are not to become attached to them. While pleasing an angry policeman, do you become attached to him?
The truly intelligent person is the one who interacts in life in a way that creates the least amount of conflict and clash at home and outside the home.
Where is our greatness if anyone is afraid of us? If frightening anyone changes them for the better, then it might be worth it even if it causes a loss for us!
No one will come to deceive us when no deceit remains within us. This world is nothing but our own reflection. All this around us is only our own photo! Only the effect of our deceitfree state can make others free of deceit!
'It is my responsibility to get closure and satisfaction of those who come across me.' Once this affirmation fits within us, then sooner or later, without any external arrangements or any ego-based efforts and with our own insight, there will definitely be a closure with others. We have to change ourselves. We are not to wait in a 'queue' until the other person changes.
Today, one becomes clean and free from ego that hurts others but how can people suddenly forget the echoes of the ego that have prevailed to this point in time? Those echoes will remain. Until those echoes end by themselves, there is no other choice but to wait.
The mirror will reflect the image of whoever is standing in front of it. Thus, one is to become 'clear' like the mirror. A mirror-like clarity does not occur because of blockage of inner impediments (atkan). And because of that, people do not get attracted toward us. Because of this atkan, other people do not even like our true statements. And because of that, there is no emanating radiance of smile of liberation and there is tension in one's speech!
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