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deals with people's fellings about everday experiences in usual activities.
Such feelings may range from negative mental states or psychological strains such as anxiety, depression, frustration, emotional exhaustion, unhappiness, dissatisfaction to a state which has been identified as positive mental health. (Jahoda 1958 Warr, 1978). Well-being or wellness is often referred to as "whole-ness of body, mind and spirit in terms of health, prosperity and selfactualization" (Maslow, 1968). According to Fromm (1976) well bing is only possible to the degree to which one is open, responsive, sensitive, awake and empty. According to Witmer and Sweeney(1992) psychological well-being includes majority of characteristics of the healthy person; a sense of control, realistic beliefs, spontaniety and emotional responsiveness, intellectual stimulation, problem solving, creativity and sense of humor. As Nagpal and Sell (1985) observe all indicators of psychological well-being have objective and subjective componetnts. The objective components relate to concerns that are generally known by the term standards of living. However, individual satisfaction of happiness with objective reality depends not only on the access to goods and services that are available to the community but also on his expectations and perceived reality. It is this subjective component which links the concept of life to subjective well-being, Every one yearns to lead a good life and even desires for a life that is peaceful, happy and meaningful. Clinebell (1995) has noted that the aim of life is to be fully born, though its tragedy is that most of us die before we are thus born.
Forgiveness is prosocial changes in people's transgression related interpersonal motivations toword a transgressor. When people forgive a transgressor, they become less motivated by revenge and avoidance and more motivated by benevolence toward the transgressor(McCullough et al., 1998; McCullough, Worhtington & Rachal, 1997). Forgiveness has been associated with interpersonal relationships between the forgiver and the transgressor (McCullough et. al, 1998) Forgiveness is positively associated with psychological well-being, because forgiveness helps people maintain and restore close relationships (Brown, 2003; Freedman & Enright, 1996) An unforgiving attitude is destructive to personal relationships, especially marital relationships which are destroyed not so much by what has been done but by what hasn't been done i.e. -forgiving one another. Genuine forgiveness, is the hardest action in the whole world. We are all fairly good at excusing minor annoyances, but when we are hurt unfairly and deeply by someone we love, forgiveness often seems almost impossible. Al-Mabuk, Enright, & Cardis, 1995; Coyle & Enright (1997) Forgiving might also involve reductions in hostility. McCullough (1998) found that people who were more forgiving of people who had recently transgressed against them had higher levels of satisfaction with life. Many religious and value systems assume that forgiveness is a source of human strength, yielding interpersonal, mental or physicsl benefits.
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