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about his parents' reaction if he errs, and reacts well if reprimanded or informed. Such a personality is called Bhim Guna.
A personality trait by which the dependant is attracted easily to the parents, yearns for their attendance and behaves well even in their absence is called Kant Guna.
If we say it differently, if he is captivated and enamoured by his parents as well as has love and affection for them, then they are endowed with Bhim Guna and Kant Guna.. A combination of these two traits makes the dependant powerful and successful. Too much monitoring is called Bhim Guna without any filteration. Such monitoring becomes a heavy steam roller and kills the mental ability of the child and makes him extremely dull and lifeless. Too much pampering is an extravagance of Kant Guna and that tends to take the child sloping towards the valleys of audacity and insolence.
The body, mind and child do not deserve to be pampered excessively. Too much pampering makes the body lazy, mind impure and the child impudent. Parents often repent in their later years for having excessively spoilt their child who is born after many years of marriage or a son who is born after the birth of one or more daughters. At such times parents are often reminded of this old saying: "a golden dagger also cannot be hurled into your own stomach !". Hence too much love and too much supervision are both detrimental for a child's proper nurturing.
A potter who makes toys from mud cannot give it a proper shape unless he mixes water into it. However by pouring excessive water, he will not be able to sustain the right shape as well. Mixing alone is not enough but it has to be done in the right proportion as well. You can give it a proper shape only if the mixing has taken place in the right proportion.
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