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When your daughter and son fight during their childhood, separating them or merely punishing the wrongdoer is not enough. You should teach them the virtues of mutual co-existence and inter personal relationships ( if they have the required capacity to understand). These values will surely help them in their future lives.
If your son shares some wafers from his snack-box with his class-mate, then you should encourage him and inculcate in him the spirit of generosity and hospitality such that it becomes a spontaneous gesture. You can be a role model by behaving correctly with poor, unhappy and sick people, so that the qualities of compassion, gratitude and chivalry are nurtured in him. You should ensure that by the time he comes of teenage, he is fully equipped in the science of social behavior.
In so many families a special type of bad upbringing is being implemented. The daughter-in-law who cannot get along with her mother-in-law, will keep her son away from the grandma. When the mother has a problem with her sister-inlaws, the child's aunts, she will present the entire cardiogram of her sister-in-laws before the child. By discussing her problems with her children, the mother is initiating a shadow of bad vibes in the child's mind towards his aunts, and weakens his future relationships with them. By mistake also you should never pass on your ill feelings for your inlaws and relatives to your children. This act is akin to pouring acid over a beautiful rose plant.
The new generation has to be taught the lessons of love in such a manner that any relative's plight or worry touches them first ! Effective lessons of compassion and familial love should be played and displayed out when needed. But, if you
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