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If he doesn't tap from outside and simultaneously does not caress with the other hand inside, the shape doesn't come well or there may be a hole in the pot. Though you may see only one hand active from the outside but there is no doubt that it is the combined functioning of both the hands that leads to the creation of the fine pot.
In this manner, by giving time, love and discipline the father is able to instill the right sense of values in his children. Tense, busy and rosy – there is not much difference in the physics and biology of each such trait. Yet there can be a vast difference in the chemistry. Just as chickoos from Golvad, oranges from Nagpur, mangoes from Ratnagiri and apples from Kashmir are considered to be the kings among the same fruits grown elsewhere because their chemistry in terms of flavour is superior when compared to similar fruits grown elsewhere. In the same manner, here also fine father means a fine father! To get a fine child it is invariably necessary to learn to be a fine father. If the fathers are very tense, their children tend to be terrors. If the fathers are very busy in their work, their children tend to be lazy and make errors. If the fathers are fine, their children will tend to be super-fine and divine.
"A child needs both to be hugged and unhugged. The hug let's him know he is valuable. The unhug let's him know that he is viable. If you are always shoving your child away they will cling to you for love. It you are always holding them closer, they will cling to you for fear."
- Polly Berrien Berends
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