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as anyone else excepting as parents. Very often their overlooking of their child's small mistakes also reflects a kind of love and care for them.
. An attitude of abhorrence by parents from child-hood, humiliation at the smallest event, continuous habit of reprimanding, creates a negative mentality towards the parents in the child's mind. A negative mentality is a mental state that is like a closed signal on the railway tracks. The only difference is that this signal at the railway tracks stops all trains whereas this mental signal stops the entry of only some individuals.
Many parents use their hands also alongwith their tongues. Then this signal becomes more stubborn. In their opinion, violence is the easiest available mode of making the children behave. Owing to the limitations of age and maturity, it is possible that children will obey at that point of time but parents should not attach much significance to such shortterm result oriented ways. The relationship between two generations is not merely an agreement of 2-5 years.
By the use of strength and violence you can get temporary results as required. Permanent impact is the testimony of a true relationship. Healthy relationships are based on a healthy mentality. By using violence and beating children, the foundation of a relationship is likely to waiver. A hurt mentality is like a boil on the body. Just as even a simple touch becomes unbearable, thereafter such children dislike even simple instructions given by their parents.
A child making a mistake is an event. By using violence that event becomes a tragedy. There are many ways to
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