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child in any manner. A child who has failed will become depressed due to such erratic behavior of their parents. Every child's interest in studies and capability is not the same. Instead of comparing the child's mark-sheet with that of the rankers and reasoning why their child does not get the same marks, the father should ask himself why he is not able to earn as much as his boss? How does he find this bitter comparision ? "Five fingers are not the same". This saying is not merely endorsed by elders for nothing.
Don't take advantage of your child's age and weakness and make him a pawn to satisfy your ego. He is worthy of your attention and his growth needs to be nurtured by you. Be Reasonable.
4. Be Practical: Be realistic. When a child plays pranks due to his age, it is not the child who is playing but his age that is playing. During his teenage, if he back-answers, then instead of drawing conclusions about his character, think about the similar behavior by you at that age. When he learns something incorrect by emulating you as his idol, correct yourself with a view to ensuring that your child does not pick up your vices or bad habits.
If your child points out your errors and if he is correct, first rectify your error and then correct your child for his impudence. As the child grows a little old, he gets vision, speech and thoughts. Where you have failed as a parent in your duties and how much you have run short in your duties, that he fails to comprehend, due to the limitations of the development of his mental faculties. At such a time if he is rebuked or spanked, then it is not appropriate from the point of view of fairness and rational conduct. At such times, instead of trying to defend yourself, indulging in arguments, finding excuses or
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