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The sculptors of the children's character themselves also have to fine tune their behavior. Sometimes the doctor's eye may also be weak. The least that parents should do to improve is to make a note of the events when they have hit their children and analyze the same.
1. Why did they hit their children?
2. Was the cause just or unjust for a child?
3. Weren't we doing the same things as children?
4. Had we given any instructions to them in this connection or not?
5. Was there any other option to punish or reprimand the child?
6. At that time was it the child's fault or were you upset with some-one else and transferred your anger on your child?
The clouds gather at one place and burst at another place and that happens in families also. Sometimes the anger that is built up in office is released at home and sometimes the anger that is built up in the kitchen is released elsewhere. When we read the tongs example cited above, we realize that their was a disruption to the daughter-in-law's activity in the kitchen and when that was disturbed she lost her temper leading to a disastrous result.
Today most counselors and psychiatrists have the following advice for the parents who come complaining about their children :
• Be more patient and
• Reduce your expectations
Use of violence with the child is an illustration of taking advantage of the child's physical weakness. Sometimes the
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