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A few years back Brihan Mumbai Muncipal Corporation had conveyed the following message on a hoarding at the railway station. It stated that "atleast once a week the whole family should dine together". You can imagine the rot that is taking place in our society that such a message would have to be displayed on a hoarding. In the villages, children travel a lot to fetch water and in the cities children travel a lot to get love. Those children who get enough love at home do not have to roam around to get synthetic love and affection.
2. Be approachable: Don't go outside the child's mental hemisphere. Those parents who appear within the eyesight of their children are parents who are available. Parents who are instantly remembered by children are those who are approachable. This issue needs to be understood in depth. Just as there is a difference between existence and presence, there is a subtle difference between the two issues of being present and making yourself present.
Hot temper, rebuking nature, loathsome attitude, getting unnecessarily violent while pointing out faults, getting angry when there is a disruption in their current activity and all such behavior creates a distance in the child's heart and mind for his own parents. Hence even when they need something they will hesitate to seek help from their parents or they will be more inclined to seek advice or help from others instead of going to them for the same. It is so ironical that children keep a safe distance from their own parents in whose presence they should actually feel much more safe and sound. Such parents are called unapproachable. Such parents though accessible are still beyond the reach of their children.
Please remember that parents are not some sort of emergency help line where children go begging for help when
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