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spare time for the child is a father's duty. This time only enables to build a bridge of love between the father and son and becomes the reason for their affection. Excercise done for an hour is good for the child's health. An hour spent in tution is good for the child's brain but the power to make him mentally cheerful, elevated and joyous is within the one hour spent by the father with his child. You should not forget the difference between the two issues of giving time lovingly and giving time forcibly.
Love: To have time and to have love are two separate issues. There is very little difference between the two words "idle" and "ideal", and yet there is a big difference.
The father's personality should be so loving that his child can approach him anytime without any hesitation and be able to question him on any issue without any fear. A Rosy father is one from whom the child seeks advice without faltering and to whom he confesses without any fear, upon making any mistake. A Rosy father is like a benevolent mango tree from which you can get protection in the form of shade as well as sweet mangoes too.
Discipline: To be loving as well as to be disciplined are not two opposite traits but are mutually complimentary. God has compassion and the police has discipline. The father must have a combination of both these traits. Many parents are excessively loving. Many parents are excessive disciplinarians. Excess of both these traits can prove to be harmful for the child's development.
For the appropriate upbringing of the child, Jain religion has high-lighted these two important character traits which the guardians must have: 1. Bhim Guna. 2. Kant Guna. A trait by which the child behaves well spontaneously, thinks twice before disobeying his parents, has a slight fear
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