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How to Dissolve Challenges
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arbitrary and leads astray. It bars us from influencing one of the main factors of our life's happiness.
Pleasant and unpleasant emotions have no original connection to the physical events we usually take as their very cause.
All our feelings originate in desires (and dreads) we carry within. Once these themes of life get triggered, they color our present emotional state in a positive or negative mood.
This explains why activities or events we usually experience with joy, sometimes for no apparent reason are marred by negative or indifferent feelings.
In this case a different feeling got activated than the one we were 'accustomed' to. If we now attempt to influence the event or its assumed cause to reinstate the joy we used to feel, we usually fail.
As long as we expect certain events to 'produce' always the same emotions, we block all access to the real mechanism that makes annoying feelings persistently recur.
It pays to give up these expectations and to look deeper what the event - and our emotions - are trying to tell us. This is the first step to effectively prevent undesirable feelings and events from ever rising again.
Negative Experiences
Negative experiences are always and exclusively the result of our own actions and attitudes. Uncomfortable life-circumstances, problems, lack of recognition etc. are nothing other than signs that now or at an earlier time we ourselves created the basis for this problematic environment or harmful feeling by attaching emotions to themes that restrict growth.
