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energy for more creative purposes, we could quite literally fly. To get an idea how much power gets wasted, we only need to realize what enormous energies get manifested in a bout of rage.
Yet though anger seems all-pervasive, there's no law that we have to be in its path. It is quite possible to go through life without ever encountering anger or aggression, - and without needing to employ it to make others comply with our demands. And all this while we direct the saved energies towards far more enjoyable activities.
This section describes how to reach this state.
How Anger Manifests in Our Lives We typically differentiate neatly between two types of aggression:
the one directed TOWARDS US. - which we mostly consider unwarranted, arbitrary and entirely unjustified,
and • the one we employ towards OTHERS, - where we feel
perfectly justified to 'motivate' them in this fashion to
get our way. Yet for the purpose of eliminating this negative feature from our life, this distinction simply doesn't work.
As long as We are willing to send out aggression to achieve our goals, we create a resonance within us that automatically makes us the target of anger and aggression others direct towards us to achieve their goals.
