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Few people ever notice that they employ bursts of aggression to get their way in life. Yet how often are we gruff, unwilling, snippy, curt or impolite towards others.
It is the way we put down children, reject inquiries of coworkers, patronize waiters and sales-people, react with irritation towards other drivers on the road etc. - the list could easily continue. We use these subtle forms of anger in a matter-of-fact way to 'advance' our goals and status.
We consider these seemingly 'minor' varieties of anger trivial, or take them as quite normal behavior. Yet they cause intense reactions in those towards whom we direct them, and are the very cause for us to remain the TARGET of anger.
What Is Anger? Anger - and its variations aggression, violence, rage etc. - project our own point of view so energetically into our environment that it completely blocks our very own capacity of reasoning and understanding. • Anger renders us incapable of accepting new or outside
information and to consider it realistically • It distorts our judgment of what is right or wrong,
proper or inappropriate • It detaches us from the cooperation of other beings • It disables our critical inner voice Once this challenge activates within us, all our thoughts and feelings appear extremely logical to us. Yet when we dispassionately analyze them afterwards, we always recognize that they presented us a grossly distorted picture of reality.
