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How to Dissolve Challenges
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What to Do Once Anger Activates in Our Life • The main mechanism:
At any emergence of anger or rage within us there always is a time when our awareness ceases to be totally dominated by it. At this point we usually see the absurdity of our reaction, but still are under the sway of strong negative emotions like jealousy, pride etc.
If at this time we make a conscious effort to regain our equanimity - even though it hurts our pride etc. - we build up a dynamic momentum that eventually enables us to control any manifestation of this challenge.
Regaining equanimity means to swallow our pride, to overcome displeasure, irritation, feelings of being unjustly treated, of having been insulted etc.
In essence it means to consciously decide NOT TO. PROLONG this negative emotion. It means to intentionally decide for more understanding, for a broader (possibly less comfortable) view, for compassion instead of egoism.
Though this may take enormous effort of will and/or considerable self-denial, it ultimately frees us from an automatic reaction that in the long run would cost us far more energy. Wait! Be patient with someone unable to master himself - instead of responding in kind.
Be aware that his capacity for reasoning is fully blocked for some time, - that he is under a cloud that
