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needs to dissipate before he can become 'his true self' again.
Wait. You can't do anything else.
Don't seek the confrontation. Don't try to argue your point of view. You have no access to him during this phase, no matter what you say or do.
Politely leave the room or react unexpectedly friendly, understanding, neutral. Prevent - if possible - to fuel his rage. The energy of an outbreak of rage always dissipates after a short while.
Give him time to end this phase. This may not always be successful, but helps in most cases. • Becoming aware how others react when WE
subject them to our will To gauge how our anger affects others is quite easy: Once we become the target of anger - we experience exactly how others feel when we treat them this way.
By watching how hysterical, incompetent, immature, overreacting and unattractive others look when they direct their anger towards us, - we see exactly how dumb we look when we succumb to this challenge instead of mastering it. Spoil-Sports Certain people purposely use irritation to harvest energy from us. They like to make us angry. They feel satisfaction when others get overwhelmed by negative emotions. During adolescence these people are called spoil-sports.
