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Pure Love
Pure Love
attachment will go away if that person experiences a lot of suffering. It was only false attachment, illusion to begin with, and this is the cause of suffering.
Questioner : What is the difference between love of illusion and real love?
Dadashri : The moth hovers around the flame and sacrifices its life in it. That is called love of illusion, whereas real love will last. There is no illusion in real love.
Life of false attachment is useless. It is equivalent to being blind. It is like a blind man who wanders around like the moth and gets consumed in the process. Love on the other hand is constant and it gives lifelong happiness. It does not seek instant gratification.
attain his goal of the absolute in this manner?
Dadashri : If he surrenders to illusion and worldly objects, he will get more of the same, more of the world and increased illusion. That is what has happened to all in the world.
Questioner : These days, boys and girls fall in love because of infatuation and attraction. Do they fail because of this illusionary love?
Dadashri : Yes, it is only because of illusion and infatuation. One sees a beautiful face, and falls in love. But this is not love. Now if there were a boil on that face, one would not even go near her. If the boil were to remain on her face for twelve months or so, he would not want to see her face and his illusion of love disappears altogether. Real love on the other hand, would not disappear even if there were numerous boils. So look for this kind of love, otherwise do not get married at all or else you will be trapped.
A man appreciates his wife when she talks sweetly to him but when she pouts he says he does not like to look at her face. You foolish man, 'It is precisely because of that sweet face that you were attracted and now you are repulsed by the bitter look on it! This is the same face that you had loved before!
Questioner: But that is infatuation and attraction, is it not?
Dadashri : All of it is infatuation and attraction. What was "liked is now repulsive, what was loved is now not loved.' Thus they go on and on. This is how they quarrel. Of what use is this kind of love?
The Illusion And Its Deceit And Pain If a person has a lot of attachment due to illusion, that
Therefore, all these are false attachments of illusionary love. Everything is an illusion. Love of illusion is simply open strokes of deceit.
Questioner: But how can an ordinary individual know the difference between real love and false love? How does the other person know whether one's love is real or false?
Dadashri : You will find out when you test it. It is best to test it before committing yourself. Just as we tap a rupee coin to test its authenticity, find an excuse to scold the other person and see their reaction. Nowadays selfishness is rampant. People will feign love for selfish motives. You should test it to see whether it is real love or not.
Questioner : Even when you scold...what is that real love like?
Dadashri : The one with such love will remain calm
