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Pure Love
Pure Love
is not love; it is exploitation.
Where Is Love In All This?
the previous life, and this love is excessive. Otherwise there will not be any conflict whatsoever! That is the nature of all conflicts.
One will find out about this so-called love between a husband and wife the day the husband does not bring home any money. His wife will be infuriated. She will even say words like,
Shall I cook your feet in the fire? Where does all her love go at that time? It was all infatuation and attraction. Love is there as long as there is food and a good home. If the husband then goes on to have an affair, she will threaten to leave him. The poor husband gives in because he feels guilty. What is the point of this kind of love? Somehow one has to get on with life. The husband has to bring home the money and the wife has to prepare the meals. This is how the husband and wife push the cart of their life forward.
Infatuation And Attraction Causes Reaction
Questioner : Why is it that sometimes although we do not want to harbor abhorrence towards others, we still end up doing it?
Dadashri : Whom are you referring to?
Questioner : Sometimes I feel that way about my husband
Dadashri : That is not called abhorrence. The love of infatuation and attraction is always reactionary. When couples fight, they will avoid each other. After a few days of maintaining a distance, their love grows again. That same love will then cause conflicts and the whole cycle will begin again. Whenever the love becomes excessive, there will be conflicts. When there are conflicts, internally there is love. Conflicts only take place when there is love. Conflicts are the result of worldly love from
What do people say? 'Conflict sustains our love. There is some truth in this. It is not real love that increases but it is infatuation and attraction that increases as a result of these conflicts. Wherever there is less conflict, there is less infatuation and attraction. Any household where conflicts between husband and wife is reduced, consider that there is less infatuation and attraction between them. Is this something that can be understood?
Questioner : Yes and wherever there is excessive infatuation and attraction, there is also a lot of jealousy.
Dadashri : All these problems, including jealousy arise only from infatuation and attraction. When two people fight a lot with each other, realize that there is excessive infatuation and attraction between them. I do not refer to these conflicts as fighting even if they slap each other. I call it parrot-play. It is like when parrots nudge at each other with their beaks but in the end there is no bloodshed. Such is the play of parrots!
When we hear such truth, we laugh at our mistakes and foolishness. It is when one hears such truth that one feels a sense of detachment towards the worldly life, and one begins to question his past mistakes. Alas! Not only has one made mistakes but one has also suffered tremendously. Where There Are Faults Or Expectations Love
Does Not Exist The world is perplexed because it believes that infatuation and attraction is love. All this is because of a man's need for a woman and a woman's need for a man. When these needs are not met, there are profuse complaints from the inner working
