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Pure Love
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with me. Besides you, I do not have anyone else'. I too used to tell Hiraba (Dadashri's wife) that, when I go out of town, I miss you. I do not like being away from you.'
Questioner: Hiraba would even believe that.
Dadashri : Yes. It is the truth. But internally I did not let it touch me
remain weak like this, especially when you want liberation from all worldly entanglements?
Questioner : No, if he did not express that much feeling, then a man is considered hard-hearted. A man without feelings is hard-hearted.
Dadashri : True feelings lie with those who do not shed tears. Your feelings are wrong. Your feelings are demonstrated, while his, which are not shown, are real. Feelings are from the heart. People have misunderstood all this. Feelings cannot be forced. It is a natural gift. If you tell someone that he is as hard as a rock, then you will stop whatever feelings he may otherwise have. It is not feelings when one cries one moment and forgets the next. Feeling is not to cry and yet to remember all the time.
Questioner : In the old days parents did not have time to love or tend to their children, and they did not give any love either. They did not give too much attention to their children. Nowadays parents give a lot of attention to their children. They pay a lot of attention to them and yet why is it that the children do not have love for their parents?
Dadashri : This current love is nothing but increasing infatuation and attraction, an illusion of increasing attachment. This results in increased preoccupation with that which attracts them, the children. In the past there was very little attachment, whereas nowadays there is much more attachment to many more objects in the world.
Questioner : Yes, and the parents too, yearn for love from their children. They expect to be respected by their children.
Even I have feelings. I never cry and yet I have constant feelings towards everyone. That is because the more the people come to see me, the more they come into my Gnan daily.
Questioner : At times the way the parents show feelings for their children appears to be excessive.
Dadashri : That is all emotional, above or below normality. Even those who show no feelings are considered *emotional'. It should be within normality. Normal means only dramatic. Just as the actor acts realistically in a play, you should perform your role in life with the same degree of conviction. Even the audiences of the play become convinced that there were no flaws in his acting. The feelings displayed were all for the sake of the play. Do you understand?
Questioner : Yes, I do understand.
Dadashri : It is love only. The world is dependent upon love. It is not as dependent on material comforts as it is on love. Alas! This love is involved in conflicts. Love should not end up in conflicts.
Questioner : Children also have a lot of love for their parents.
Dadashri : The children too have a lot! But even their love is associated with conflicts.
Dadashri : So say to your son, 'son come here and sit
