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Pure Love
Pure Love
Dadashri : It is when one realizes, 'I am beyond attraction and attachment', that one becomes liberated. One does not need to remove the infatuation and attraction, one just needs to realize that he is beyond attachment. Infatuation and attraction will never leave any other way. What happens if you eat something sweet and then drink tea?
Questioner : The tea does not taste sweet.
Dadashri : Yes. Similarly after realizing the Self, one will not find the worldly life as sweet; infatuation and attraction will disappear. Having acquired the Self, when one sustains the state of the Self by abiding by my Agnas (Five dictates to follow after Self-Realization (Gnan Vidhi) which helps one maintain awareness of one's Real Self), this worldly life will not appear as attractive and binding.
the love increases or decreases too much, it is called infatuation and attraction. Infatuation and attraction is always followed by attachment and abhorrence. It is this infatuation and attraction that people refer to as love.
Questioner: Can you explain the difference between infatuation and attraction and love?
Dadashri : Infatuation and attraction is the opposite of love. The love that this world talks about is worldly love, and that is why this world is so complex itself. This worldly love is infatuation and attraction.
The world is immersed in infatuation, attraction and desire, but the One who resides within the Self is without all these. Where there is infatuation and attraction, there is desire. Desire is always associated with infatuation and attraction. People claim to be free from desire. Even in their devotion to the Lord, they claim that they have no desire. But in reality one can never be free from desire as long as there is infatuation and attraction.
There is infatuation and attraction in everything. It clings even to material things. If one sees a beautiful tea set, they will get pulled towards it, even if there is no life in it! I once visited a carpenter who would not be satisfied until he had inspected a piece of wood five times over! The piece of wood was round and smooth as satin! He had to feel its smoothness over and over again! What an infatuation and attraction over a piece of wood! So infatuation and attraction is not limited to women only. Wherever there is worldly love that clings, it is simply infatuation and attraction.
From Worldly Love To Real Love
Questioner : You explained the subtle nature of infatuation and attraction. Now how can one be free from it?
Infatuation and attraction cannot be removed even if you want to. Just as you cannot remove the force of magnetism between a magnet and a pin, the infatuation and attraction in humans does not go. Its power and its force can be decreased, but it cannot be eliminated. Infatuation and attraction only go away when one becomes the Self, the one who is never attracted. Otherwise one is always in attraction, infatuation and attached. As long as 'he' is the owner of his name and believes, I am Chandulal', he remains attached and bound. He is bound to his name, bound because he is a husband, a father etc.
Questioner: So when one is not affected by circumstances, is that real love and not infatuation?
Dadashri : No, only when the ego ends does one become unattached, the Self. So when both the ego and attachment, 'I' and 'my' go away, then it is called the liberated detached state, the state of the Self. But such a person is very rare.
