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Pure Love
Pure Love
Questioner : The word companion is also associated with infatuation and attraction, is it not?
Dadashri : Is that so? Is that the rule? Is it written somewhere that they cannot be called husband and wife if there are no differences of opinion between them? Are there not some differences in opinion?
Questioner : Yes.
Dadashri : There is infatuation and attraction even in that, but that infatuation and attraction is not like that when the terms, husband and wife are used. The terms, husband and wife are filled with heavy infatuation and attraction, but when the word companion is used the infatuation and attraction diminishes.
'She Is Not Mine...'
An elderly man had lost his wife twenty years ago. His nephew who was sitting near me said, 'shall I make my uncle cry?' I asked, "How will you do that? He is now so old. The young man replied, 'Just watch, and see how sensitive this uncle is.' Then the nephew said, 'What a wonderful lady, my aunt was...how kind she was...' Upon hearing this, the old man became tearful and then burst out crying! How crazy people are! Even at the age of sixty he cries! People even cry while watching a movie. If someone dies in the movie, they start crying also.
Questioner : So why can he not be freed from the infatuation and attraction for his dead wife?
Dadashri : Then does the husband-wife relationship not keep diminishing with increasing differences of opinions?
Questioner : Love keeps on increasing.
Dadashri : As love increases, does the difference in opinion not decrease?
Questioner: As the differences in opinions increase, and as the quarreling increases, so does love.
Dadashri : Yes. It is not love but infatuation and attraction that increases. This world has not seen love. Love is very different from infatuation and attraction. You can see love as you are talking to me. Even if you were to get angry with me, you would still see that love and realize what love incarnate is. Are you getting anything out of what I am saying?
Questioner : Yes absolutely.
Dadashri : One cannot be freed. The problem was created with him believing, 'She is mine, she is mine.' Now by reciting, "She is not mine, she is not mine,' the attachment will dissolve. The threads that were wound have to be unwound.
Differences In Opinions And Love Do you have differences of opinion with your wife?
Questioner: How can a couple be called husband and wife without these differences?
Dadashri : Yes, be warned, otherwise you will find yourself becoming a fool. Can there ever be love in such relationships? How can you expect to see love in others when you do not have it yourself? It is only when you have love within you that you will see it in others. Beware! When you search for real love, know that you will not find it. The so-called love of nowadays is only selfish love. People are taking advantage of each other whenever they can, whether they know it or not. One is enjoying the other without regards for the other, and that
