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Pure Love
Pure Love
Dadashri : Even then, there is evidence of a mother's love. The mother feels happy when she sees her child. What is the reason behind that? It is because for nine months the child had made the mother's body a dwelling place. The mother feels that she gave birth to the child and the child feels that he was born out of his mother. This is how intense the oneness between the two becomes. Whatever the mother ate, became blood for the child. So this is a kind of love of oneness. Really speaking it is not love. Relatively speaking it is love. So if love is to be found anywhere, it is with the mother. With her you can see some signs of love. However it is a relative love subject to increase and decrease, and has its limitations. It may fracture at any time.
These are all relative relationships, not real. If the father were to die, his son would follow him if it were real love. That is called love but would any son do that?
Questioner : Nobody has done that.
Questioner: So when someone dies and we weep, is it due to our attachment that we cry or is it because we have pure love for him or her?
Dadashri : There is no pure love in this world. The crying is all due to attachment. This world is never without selfish interests, and where there is self-interest, there is attachment. Even a mother has self-interest. People think that their love for their mother is pure, but every mother has selfinterest. However her love has been revered because the selfinterest is limited. It is still a consequence of attachment of illusion
Questioner : That is okay but a mother's love can still be unselfish, right?
Dadashri : It is unselfish up to a great extent and that is why a mother's love is called love.
Questioner : But yet you are saying that it is attachment of illusion?
Dadashri : When people ask me whether there is such a thing as love in this world, I tell them that a mother's love is the closest to love in this world. Elsewhere there is no substance to anything. Of all the love there is, a mother's love for her child is worthy of praise, because there is sacrifice in that love.
Questioner : If that is a fact about the mother, then what role does the father have in this love?
Dadashri : A father's love is selfish love. He believes that the son will perpetuate the family name. Only the mother has some element of spontaneous love, natural love. But even she has expectations and assumes that when the son grows up, he will take care of her and it would be enough for her. This
Dadashri : Has there ever been an exception? Has there not been such a case where the son is so overcome with grief over his father's death that he is ready to die along with his father? Has such an event occurred in Mumbai?
Questioner : No. Dadashri : So what does he do at the crematorium?
Questioner: He cremates his father.
Dadashri : Is that so? Then he must not eat anything after returning home from the cremation, right? He does eat, doesn't he? So this is all superficial. Everyone knows that this is a relative relationship. The one who is gone is gone. After the funeral the rest of the family come home and have a nice meal.
