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Pure Love
Pure Love
Dadashri : Sit down with him and tell him gently that civilized and respectable people do not do such things. Talk to him gently and lovingly. But instead what you do is beat him and scold him. How can this be acceptable?
Without love there can be no solutions. Even when you grow a plant, you have to nurture it with love. Merely pouring water over it and shouting at it will not do it. If done with love, if you talk to it with love, it will give you nice big flowers! So imagine how much more it can affect humans!
does not heed you anymore. It should not be like that. I have never used an authoritative voice. Only when children are very young can one use authority in their voice. Even in such a situation, I show only love towards them. I win them with love.
Questioner : The power of love is greater than the power of authority, right?
Dadashri : Yes, but you can only love when all your other weaknesses go away. Children have good hearts. You should be kind to them. You can interfere with those who have a lot of intellect but not with those who are sincere and hearty.
Questioner : But what do I have to do?
Dadashri : If your telling him does not produce any results, then you should stop. We are being foolish because we do not know how to say things and if so, we should stop. We lose our peace of mind and spoil our life to come. Who would do such a thing?
Not a single person can be improved in this era of the current time cycle. How can a person improve others while he himself is so full of faults? When he himself is full of weaknesses, how can he improve others? To improve others one needs strength. Here only love is needed.
The Power Of Love
When you plant something you have to nurture it and care for it. You cannot keep yelling at it and demand that it better bring forth big flowers. When even a rosebush thrives with love, what about humans? But these parents beat and abuse their own children!
The world always improves through love. There is no other solution for it. If it could improve through fear, intimidation and repression, then these governments would get rid of democracy and imprison whoever breaks the law and hang him.
Questioner : Sometimes even when we explain with love, he still does not understand.
Dadashri : Then in that situation what else would you do, attack and hurt him?
Questioner: I do not know, what should I do?
Dadashri : If you attack and hurt him, he will react in the same manner. That is how fighting starts. One's life becomes full of conflicts.
Questioner : But how can we stay calm in such
Speak in such a manner that the other person's ego does not arise. Whenever you say anything to your child, your voice should not be authoritative.
Questioner : Yes, you had said that we should stop talking before the other person shuts us out.
Dadashri : Yes that is true. You should stop before you get shut out. It is foolishness to persist to the point where he
