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Pure Love
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Love is unchanging; whenever you see it, it is always the same. One can find comfort and solace in only this kind of love.
You may want to shower her with love, but when you see her sulking and angry, what would you do with your love then? It would be better to throw it down the drain. What good is the love of a person who goes around sulking? What do you think?
Questioner : That is true.
Dadashri : In love there should be no sulking or moodiness. That is the kind of love you will find from me.
components, the mind, chit, intellect and ego. No one belongs to anyone in this world, even for a minute. This has always been the case and it always will be. This would become evident, if a father were to scold his son for an hour. The son would retaliate and even threaten to sue for his share of the inheritance. Only a Gnani Purush loves you unconditionally. He alone is truly yours.
So do not look for love in this world because there is no such thing as love in it. Love cannot be found anywhere except in a Gnani Purush. Everywhere else love disappears and the quarrels start. That is not called love, it is all infatuation and attraction, but people refer to it as love. People are always contradicting themselves! Quarrels cannot be the result of love. Love means you do not see faults in others.
With love one would never see the fault of the wife or the children throughout his life. In love, one never sees any faults at all. Just look at how people find faults with each other. "You are like that.' 'No, you are like that.' The world has not seen even an iota of love. All this is infatuation and attraction of illusion.
Wherever there is infatuation and attraction, accusations will occur for sure. That is the nature of infatuation and attraction. Accusations like, you are like this and you are like that.' And the spouse will retort, 'you are like that, not me. Infatuation and attraction exists in the world, because of quarrels. Quarrels are vitamins for infatuation and attraction. If there were no quarrels, one could become enlightened.
Love Is With The Enlightened One Only
Nowadays girls only agree to marry after a close scrutiny of their suitors. Does that mean that they do not fight with their husbands? Then how can that be called love? Love lasts forever.
One's love should never fluctuate. If your husband is upset with you, your love for him should not change. If a woman is given diamonds, her love increases. All this is infatuation and attraction. The world is run by infatuation and attraction. The only ones who have the license to love are the Gnanis and the fully enlightened Lords. Their love makes people blissful. This love creates a permanent bond between them. Their love is beyond this world. There is no hint of worldly love in it.
Familiarity Breeds Contempt
Human nature is such that wherever there is too much worldly love it turns into dislike and abhorrence. When we become sick, we tire of the ones we love. We tell them to stay away from us or to leave us alone. You should not have any expectations of love from your husband and he is a fool if he expects love from you. Things are fine when our needs are met. Do we try to make a home out of a restaurant? We go there to have a cup of tea, we pay our bill and then we leave! Similarly all we need to do is to get our work done with ease and minimal friction out of that relationship.
