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Pure Love
Pure Love
Questioner : That is why people are told, love one another, love one another.
his father, but if just once, in anger during an argument between the two, the son tells his father, 'you do not have any sense', their relationship is ruined for the rest of their lives. The father will disown the son. Now if it were real love, the relationship would remain unaffected. Selfish love is infatuation and attraction. It is a love like that between a businessman and his customer; it is nothing but transactions of give and take. People are drawn to real love. They are attracted to all the words that flow from real love. There is no action and reaction in real love. The flow of love is constant. His or her love remains constant; there is no increase or decrease, no give or take. Infatuation and attraction is by nature conditional and involves give and take.
Dadashri : But it is not even love to begin with. Such talks are from the worldly perspective. Who can call this love? The love that increases and decreases is nothing but infatuation and attraction. The world has never seen real love. My love is real love, which is why it affects people. People benefit from it; otherwise it would be of no use to anyone! Whenever there is a presence of the Lord or a Gnani Purush in this world, people witness real love. That love will not increase or decrease. It is love without attachment. It is the love of the Gnani. The Gnani's love is parmatma (absolute Self). Real love is parmatma; nothing else is parmatma.
The Gnani's Love Remains Constant
Questioner: So can you explain the different kinds of love?
Dadashri : There are only two kinds of love: That which increases and decreases, is called attraction and infatuation and the other, which remains constant is love without attachment, attraction or infatuation. This type of love is the love that the Gnani has.
My love is constant for everyone at all times. It remains unaffected whether someone insults me or gives me a lot of attention and respect. What people say to me or do for me has no bearing on my love. That is called love. My love for you today will be the same even when we meet after twenty years.
Worldly Love Is Selfish Questioner: In this world a mother's love is considered very superior.
Dadashri : Then what kind of love comes after that?
Questioner : There is no other. All others types of love have motives and selfishness.
The Gnani's love is pure love. You will not see that kind of love anywhere in this world. The love you see in the world is selfish love. The love between a husband and wife, parents and children and in other relationships is all selfish love. One realizes this when that love fractures, breaks and ends. As long as there is sweetness in it, everything is fine, but one will realize what kind of love it is when it becomes bitter.
Dadashri : Is that so? Even the love between brothers and sisters is selfish? Have you experienced any of them?
Questioner: I have experienced them all.
Dadashri : When people shed tears, it is not because their love is real. They cry out of selfish motives. The selfishness
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