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Pure Love
Pure Love
gives rise to attachment and attraction. Their love arises out of motives and self-interest. At your home you should aim for an unchanging love for everyone. But for the sake of your worldly interactions, you should also tell them: 'I am lost without you, I miss you etc.'. You have to say this in order to maintain your relationships. But keep your love such that it does not increase or decrease.
If people ask me, is the love of a woman real love? I would explain to them that the love that increases or decreases is not real love. It is not called love when it increases the day she is given a diamond and decreases when she does not get what she wants.
Questioner : One can live if it is real love. If it is false love, love of infatuation and attraction, then he will not be able to live with it.
Dadashri : You said it right. Forget about the kind of love, which leads to divorces. How can you call it love? Our love should be such that it never goes away, no matter what happens. One can live with such real love.
Questioner : If it is love of infatuation and attraction, then one cannot live.
Dadashri : The false love of attachment and attraction due to illusion is useless. Do not become trapped by it. Love has to be right and real. It is true that man cannot live without love, but that love has to be real.
So do you understand the definition of love? Look for that kind of love. Do not look for love that ends in a divorce in the future. Where is the stability in such a love?
Questioner : What is real love like when it does not fluctuate?
Dadashri : It does not increase or decrease. It remains the same, whenever you look at it. Elsewhere in the world as long as you do favors for people, their love will stay with you and it will fall apart when you stop. How can you call that love?
So what is the definition of real love? Real love is that which remains the same whether one receives flowers or thorns of insults. This is the definition of real love. Everything else is false attachment and attraction. Real love is the love of the Lord. When that kind of love arises, there is no need for anything else. Only this love is a love that is of any value.
Love Of Illusion Is Useless Questioner : Can a man live without love?
Dadashri : A man continues to live when the one whom he has loved divorces him, does he not?
Questioner : In the worldly love, which is due to attachment, there is expectation of some kind of reward for the sacrifice one makes, whereas in real love there are no expectations of any reward. If one surrenders with unconditional love, does one become divine?
Dadashri : If any man in this world begins on the path of real love, he would become God. Real love is unadulterated and pure. Real love does not have motives of sex, greed or pride. Such unadulterated love turns man into God. The methods are all easy, but to become that is difficult.
Questioner : Likewise if one surrenders to any worldly love and passion what ever it may be, with total devotion and dedication, will it result in attaining the divine state? Will he
