Brahamacharya Celibacy with Understanding

Author(s): Dada Bhagwan
Publisher: Dada Bhagwan Foundation

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Celibacy
Celibacy
The presence of brahmacharya in the mind, the body and the speech results in wonderful power of mind, wonderful power of body and wonderful power of the speech. What type of sexuality existed in the times of Lord Mahavir? The sex was limited to having one to two children. The Lord knew that this interaction would be abused in this day and age, so he had to add the fifth vow of brahmacharya.
It is a real wonder that humans are stuck in the terrible filth of exploitation of the five senses. It is horrible heap of filth. The world continues to move in this filth, because people do not understand this. If one gives a moment's thought to this, then one would understand that this truly is a heap of filth. It is nothing but absolute filth. But people do not think at all. Why are human beings stuck in such dirt? It is because they cannot find a cleaner place (real happiness) anywhere else, therefore they continue to lie in this filth.
Questioner: So, isn't this a matter of ignorance of this filth?
A spider spins a web and then it gets entangled in its own web. Similarly you, yourself have created this web of entanglement in worldly life. You had asked for it in your previous life. In the receptacle of intellect (buddhi na ashayama) which you have brought forth in this life, you filled out a tender, a proposal for one wife, two to three rooms, one son, one daughter and a job. But along with the wife, you also received a mother-in-law, father-in-law, uncle-in-law, wife's brother and sister, etc. What a trap! Had you known about this huge trap, you would have not asked for it. You only asked for a wife, then why all this? Nature says it cannot provide just a wife. It also has to give you uncle-in-law, aunt-in-law etc. along with her. You will not have fun without them, the bigger the clan, the greater is the fun (!).
Now tell me, what do you want in the worldly life? Questioner: I do not ever want to get married.
Dadashri : This body is full of difficulties, is it not? How do you feel about this body when you have a stomachache? What would happen if you start trading with someone else's body? Wouldn't there be more difficulties? In addition there are two to four children too. It may be okay if there is only a wife to deal with, as she may cooperate, but what would happen if four children came along, in addition? You will have endless difficulties.
Dadashri : Yes, it is ignorance and that is why he remains stuck in this filth. If one tries to, he can understand. He does not even try to understand this.
There are vishayas without becoming the object for enjoyment rather than a necessity (nirvishayi vishaya). These are things that one consumes for the sustenance of his body, like food and water. This is not vishaya, i.e. object of enjoyment. When is anything considered a vishaya? It is considered a vishaya if you become greedy or infatuated with it. Otherwise it is not a vishaya. Therefore, everything you see in this world is not vishaya but if you become greedy or obsessed with it then it is called vishaya. No vishaya in this world touches me in any way.
Before leaving the womb, you experience so many terrible suffering within the womb and yet when you grow up, you go back to the womb (by binding karma for next life). Such is the way of this world. No one has taught you the real thing. Even parents tell you to get married. And that is parent's duty, is it not? But, no one gives the right advice about the pain and suffering involved in married life.