Brahamacharya Celibacy with Understanding

Author(s): Dada Bhagwan
Publisher: Dada Bhagwan Foundation

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Celibacy
Celibacy
married?
medicine. Just as you take any medicine in the right dose, take this medicine of sex in right dose. When does married life excel? It does so when you take the medicine (have sex) only when both of you have a fever (want sex). Does any one take medicine without a fever? If one takes medicine without a 'fever', the married life would not attain harmony. It would not excel. Therefore it should be taken only if both have a sexual fever. You do not take medicine everyday just because it is sweet.
All these highly evolved souls, such as Rama-Sita, had control over their passions. They has sexual control. Is abrahmacharya a divine quality? No, that is a bestial quality. Humans lose their human-ness with abrahmacharya. The world does not understand what sex is. Millions of lives die in only one act of sex through the loss of millions of living sperms. This is tremendous violence. Not realizing this, people believe sexual act to be the highest pleasure. They do not understand that a life is precious and must not be lost except as a last resort. But what happens when there is no understanding?
Questioner: The fault is of the sufferer, accepted. But please Dada, please show me a way, and show me some way out of sex, by pratikraman, or something like that.
Dadashri : Only through making him understand that Dada has said this is not something that you can keep taking. Why don't we take this medicine six to eight times a month? The problem with the file will be settled with equanimity if your mind and body remains healthy.
Therefore, in Akram Vignan, sexual relation (abrahmacharya) with your wife is considered brahmacharya. But this has to be discriminative understanding, and your all inclinations and impulses of a sexual nature towards anyone else except your wife must not exist. If such errors occur, they must be cleansed instantly with pratikramans. For this era I consider this brahmacharya. Why? It is because you remain within bounds of what is rightfully yours and your intentions are not spoilt elsewhere. This is no ordinary state, is it? Such a married brahmachari will eventually understand that even such sex with his wife is a grave mistake and he will let go of his right of sex with his wife
[2] Sexual Transactions By The Sexual Look
You have acquired my thermometer now. This is the instrument by which you are to proceed. Fever for both. Otherwise not. That is why I say that I have liberated you even with having a wife. No one has made this simple for you. A very simple and straightforward path has been given to you. It is up to you to make good use of it. It is extremely simple. This has never happened before. This is the pure path, acceptable to the Lord.
Questioner : If the wife has no desire, no fever, what should she do if she has to take the 'medicine' given to her by force by her husband?
Dadashri : What can she do? Who asked her to get
These days everything has become like an open free market of sex, has it not? At the end of the day it may seem that you have not done any trading in sex, but this is not so. However, you may have unknowingly made, as many as twelve such deals by just looking at them. Such transactions occur just by looking. This would not happen if our Gnan were present. You will see the pure Soul within a woman passing by, but how can others see that?