Brahamacharya Celibacy with Understanding

Author(s): Dada Bhagwan
Publisher: Dada Bhagwan Foundation

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Questioner : So, does the law of karma works there
too?
Dadashri : Yes, it is the law of karma that is working, nothing else. It is not the fault of the man; it is the karma that makes him spin. But suspicion will kill him for no reason.
Dadashri : The faults of sexual misconduct that you see in a person, do you think that they are new and did not exist before? Have they arisen out of the blue? That is why it is worth understanding that this is how it all is in this world. In this day and age do not judge anyone by his or her conduct. This is how it is everywhere. It may not be openly evident but their minds are filled with sexual misconduct and wrong sexual impulses. And in all this world of sexuality, the woman is the storehouse of sexual deceit and illusion. That is why the life after life womanhood is perpetuated and there is no escape from it. Of all this therefore, the fortunate ones are the ones who become free from all elements of sexuality and attain brahmacharya.
Questioner: We know that this is going on all around, yet when the mind suspects someone, we get engrossed in it. What adjustments do we take there?
Dadashri : Having realized the Self, do not get involved in anything else. Remain as the Self. Everything else is of the foreign department; the non-Self and You should remain in the home department, the Self. Why don't you remain as the Self? This type of Gnan cannot be attained over and over again, therefore get your work done. One gentleman kept getting suspicious about his wife. I asked him what caused him to be suspicious? Was he suspicious because he saw something? Was it not occurring before he saw it? The ones who get caught, people call them thieves. But those that do not get caught are all thieves from within.
What is there to be scared of when you are the pure Soul? This is all discharge of what had been charged in your past life. The whole world is purely a discharge. There is nothing other than discharge in this world. That is why I say that there is no one at fault because it is all a discharge.
Therefore, whoever wants peace regarding the sexual conduct of his wife, he should marry an ugly woman so that no one would have sexual impulses towards her. No one will be willing to keep her. And she herself would say, "No one would keep me. It is just this husband that I have found who would keep me'. That is why she would remain very sincere to you. Otherwise, if she were beautiful, people would enjoy her with sexual looks. If she is pretty, people will look at her with sexual intentions. When I see a man who marries a beautiful woman, I think what would happen to the poor man!
A man would forget God if his wife is very beautiful, would he not? And if the husband were very handsome, the wife would forget God. That is why everything in moderation is good.
These people are such that wherever they see a 'hotell (place of sexual gratification), they would 'eat' (enjoy). So it is not worth being suspicious, in this world. Suspicions cause pain and heartaches. Both, women and men, 'eat' whenever they see a 'hotel'.
Men and women teach each other a lesson in sexuality, but women win at the end because men do not have deceit in them. That is why women deceive men.
When sincerity and morality was present, the worldly life was worth living. Today there is tremendous amount of deceit.