Brahamacharya Celibacy with Understanding

Author(s): Dada Bhagwan
Publisher: Dada Bhagwan Foundation

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week he will experience tremendous bliss. The bliss of the Self will express. This bliss is beyond description.
Some people say that they cannot get rid of sexuality. I ask them why are they acting crazy? Why don't you set some disciplined limit for yourself and then make sure that you stick to it. In this day and age, nothing can be achieved without discipline. There should be some flexibility, shouldn't there?
Questioner : What does one do in a situation where a man wants to practice brahmacharya but his wife does not?
Dadashri : If she does not wish to, then try and make her understand.
Questioner : How should I make her understand?
Dadashri : You have to continually keep explaining to her the benefits and gradually she will come around. It does not happen instantly. By continuous discussions and mutual understanding it will happen. Both of you will have to come to a meaningful compromise. You have to discuss and think about the harm of abrahmacharya and thoughts related to this.
You will have to get rid of sex if you want liberation. There are about a thousand mahatmas who take this yearlong vow of brahmacharya. "Grant us a yearlong vow of brahmacharya, Dada,' they say. They come to know all the benefits within a year
Abrahmacharya is indecision. Indecision is not related to the unfolding of karma.
I was shocked after talking to four to five mahatmas. I told them that this falsehood of sexuality would not do. This is merely indecisiveness (anischaya). You will definitely have to get rid of it. Brahmacharya is needed first. You are really a
brahmachari by way of being the Self, but you cannot be abrahmacharya in worldly interactions. This is a clear conflict.
One who does not have any opinions about brahmacharya or abrahmacharya is considered to be in brahmacharya. To constantly remain the Self is my brahmacharya. That does not mean that I do not accept the external brahmacharya of thoughts, speech and acts. As you are living a married life, I have to say that there is no problem with abrahmacharya, but your opinion for abrahmacharya must not exist. Your opinion should always be for brahmacharya. Abrahmacharya for you is a file that needs to be settled with equanimity. You are not able to experience the bliss of the Self because you are still stuck with your old opinions about sexuality and abrahmacharya. Once these opinions leave, you will be able to experience the bliss of the Self. The veil of opinion for abrahmacharya obstructs your clear vision and bliss. The opinion must be exclusively that of, and for brahmacharya only. What is a vow? A vow is that which continues its experience effortlessly. When is the mahavrat of brahmacharya attained? It is the experience that there is not an iota of the thought of abrahmacharya, and no memory of it. [10] Confession Avoids Dangers Of Breakage Of Vow
The Lord has said that the vow can only be broken if you break it yourself. How can someone else make you break it? Someone else cannot break it. If vow is broken, once it is taken, then the soul will also leave. Once you have taken the vow it should not be broken. If you do, you must admit and say that now have lost your power and control.
[11] Power of Conduct
The ideal social conduct means the conduct of the pudgal, the non-Self. This is visible through these eyes. When the other,