Brahamacharya Celibacy with Understanding

Author(s): Dada Bhagwan
Publisher: Dada Bhagwan Foundation

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him repeatedly, what is the reason behind it? It is because the man is deeply passionate about sexual gratification. Woman does not push him around just because she feeds him food; she does so because of sex. No woman would push a man around if he were not interested in sex. She takes advantage of this weakness but if there were no weakness, she would not be able to bother him in any manner. Women are very deceitful and men are naive. So the men have to keep sexual desire under control for two to four months. She will then get tired and she would not be able to control the man.
When will a woman respect you and be deferential to you? If you were very sensitive about sex, easily aroused by sexuality, then she would control you. If you are sexual but not sensitive, not easily aroused, then she will develop respect for you. If she invites you for sex and you say not now, after two to three days, then she stays under your command. Otherwise you will be under her control. I understood this at the age of fifteen. Some people beg for sex. You fool, do you have to beg for sex? What would then happen to you if you do? What will the woman do? She will abuse you. She will boss you around, "Hold this child, and go take care of him'. Our mahatmas have sex but they do not have the craving for
around the house.
Dadashri : Those disputes and clashes will continue. As long as there is sexual interaction, clashes will continue. This is the root of all clashes. The person who has conquered sex, has such an aura about him that no one will bother him, no one can conquer him.
When sexual interaction with Hiraba stopped, I started calling her "Hiraba' ('ba' means mother). After that we haven't had any difficulties. And whatever difficulties and clashes we had before, were due to sex. But as long as there is the after effect of the 'bite' of sex, clashes will remain. Even after cessation of overt sexual interaction, the after effects of the prior sexual interaction remain for some time and then end. So do the clash. I am telling you this from personal experience.
Look at the wonder of this science! All the clashes, not only with the wife, but with the whole world stop. This science is such, and you are free when all clashes end.
When an intense dislike for sex arises, only then would sex stops. Otherwise, how else can it be stopped?
[7] Sex is Beastliness
One woman makes her husband prostrate to her four times, before she will allow him to touch her once. You fool, why don't you go jump in the ocean instead, what is wrong in doing that? Take samadhi, final peace, in the sea, at least the sea is straightforward; at least there is no hassle there. What kind of nonsense is this of prostrating for sex?
Questioner: Before, I used to think that all these clashes and arguments in the home were due to matters and work of the household. But disputes occur even when I try to help her
People of my time were very good about one thing. They did not harbor much sexual thoughts. They did not have sexual intentions towards women. There were may be five to seven percent of such people who were sexually hungry. They would seek widows who had no one else living at home. In my youth every girl was addressed as sister, even if she was not related. This was the common practice. Until the age of ten to eleven there was such innocence in sexual matters that I used to run around without any shorts.