Brahamacharya Celibacy with Understanding

Author(s): Dada Bhagwan
Publisher: Dada Bhagwan Foundation

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No man would go back to his wife if I revealed everything about his wife. I know everything about everyone but I never say or do anything about it. Man is often disloyal, but a woman is the factory of deceit. The museum of deceits exists not anywhere else, except in a woman.
These men start suspecting their wives if they come home a little late. Suspicions are not worth having. Nothing is going to happen outside of the karmic accounts. Try and make her understand when she comes home but do not be suspicious of her. Suspicions breed suspicion and invite disaster. Yes, you should warn her, but not suspect her. A suspicious person misses the opportunity to be free.
Therefore, if you want to be free and attain liberation you should not be suspicious. If you see your wife in another man's arms, does that mean you have to kill yourself?
Questioner : No, why should I do that? Dadashri : Then what will you do?
sex, there is no problem even if the things are kept in your bag. These quarrels would not take place then, would they?
Questioner : But seeing all this sends shivers down my body. It is also amazing that, despite daily quarrels, husband or wife does not feel like coming up with a solution, is it not?
Dadashri : This has been going on for so many years, ever since they got married. They quarrel on one hand and continue to have sex with each other on the other hand. That is why I have said that both should take the vow of brahmacharya, and then your life would be of the highest quality. All the fights are for selfish reasons. She knows that he is not going to go anywhere away from her. He too knows that she is not going to go away from him. Thus the relationship survives only to serve each other's selfish needs. Everything remains, the fights and the sex, unchanged.
Misery of dependency on sex is greater than the happiness derived from it. When one realizes this, he will be free from the false infatuation of sex. It is then, that he would impress females. The impression of this nature gradually leads to an aura of awe and respect. Thereafter they leave him alone. Otherwise, even the greatest of men in this world have suffered at the hands of women and their sexual ploy. Only the vitarags, liberated ones have understood this. It is because of their aura of purity that women stayed away from them. Otherwise women carry so much power that they can make any man helplessly subordinate to them in no time. This is the nature, sexual character of women. You must stay away from women. You must not try and deceive them otherwise you yourself will come under their deception. And this web of misery has been going on since time immemorial.
When a woman pushes her husband around and scolds
Questioner: First display some dramatic anger and then I would try and make her understand. After that, whatever happens is 'vyavasthit'. Dadashri : Yes, that is correct.
[6] Zero Sex: Zero Clashes Where do quarrels occur in this world? Only where there is infatuation and attraction. For how long the quarrels exist? As long as sexual interaction exists, quarrels exist. Then you start doing 'mine-yours', 'Pick up your bag from here. Why have your kept saris in my bag?" etc. These quarrels exist as long as you are united in sex. And once you have become free from