Brahamacharya Celibacy with Understanding

Author(s): Dada Bhagwan
Publisher: Dada Bhagwan Foundation

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Celibacy
Celibacy
mind. That which does not accept our control cannot be called control. Shouldn't there be a controller? You can only control, if you are the controller. You are not the controller, because your mind does not obey you. Does your mind obey you?
your ice cream to the point of full satisfaction, you do not feel like eating it again.
Dadashri : That is not possible in this world. On the contrary, you will feel like eating again. But, if somebody keeps feeding you something that you do not like at all, again and again, then it will induce vomiting and then you will stop. In sexuality, the more a person enjoys it, the more he has a burning desire for it.
By not indulging, one would become uneasy and unsettled for a month or two. Loss of familiarity is the key. By not experiencing it one will completely forget sexuality. It is not possible for a person enjoying sex to get rid of the desire for it. Hence, research of the scriptures done by people in our country, has led to the discovery that the path of brahmacharya is the best way. The best cure is to become unfamiliar with sex.
Mind is not to be obstructed. Instead, the causes of the mind have to be obstructed. The mind is a result. It is an effect. It will continue to show the results. It is like the result of an examination. The result cannot be changed without changing the answers of the examination. These 'answers' were given in the past life. The result is now in front of you as the mind. Thus the root causes of the results need to be stopped. How can you identify the cause of the effect? How did the thoughts of sex arise in the mind? The answer is that it is stuck in sex. It was stuck in sex in the last life and it is stuck in sex in this life. One should identify all the places where the mind is stuck in this life, and cut off the link with it.
Questioner : What is the easiest way for one to free from all sexual impulses?
Once you stay away from sex for one or two years, then you forget all about it. That is the nature of the mind. If it goes near it, it will become restless. The mind has been separated from its familiarity. If 'You' (the Self) remain separate from it, then the mind stays away from it and therefore it will forget it forever. It will never remember it again. It will not go there even if you want it to. Do you understand that? It is like if you stayed away from your friend for two years then your mind will forget him.
Dadashri : Coming to me is the solution. What other solution is there? If you try to give up one passion by yourself, another one will enter. A vacuum created cannot remain as vacuum. The moment you give up sexual passions another passion sets in.
Questioner : When we give the mind the freedom to enjoy sex, it remains uninterested and when we control the mind, it becomes restless even more, the fascination for sex increases. What is the reason for this?
Questioner: This anger-pride-attachment-greed that you talk about, where does sex come in it? What does sex come under these passions?
Dadashri : Sex and kashaya (anger-pride-attachmentgreed) are different. Indulging in sex and crossing its limits is called greed.
Dadashri : This is not called having control over the