Brahamacharya Celibacy with Understanding

Author(s): Dada Bhagwan
Publisher: Dada Bhagwan Foundation

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as refuse. What is the rule of this world? Any person who does not have any thoughts about wealth, does not have any thoughts of vishaya and who continuously stays detached from his body, the world will call him God.
[18] Dada Gives Encouragement to Aptaputris
The world does not know that all this is wrapped up and disguised with a silk cloth. It is the refuse that you do not like, that is wrapped in a silk cloth. Do you not think so? If you only realize this then you will experience apathy towards sexual desires. People do not realize this and that is why this world continues the way it does. Do any of the ladies have such awareness? What would you find when you peel a good-looking man?
What would you find in a well-groomed and dressed man, when you cut him open? Ladies deluded with illusion of sexuality do not see this and hence they are overwhelmed by his good looks. I can see clearly through him.
Women should not look at men with sexual intent and vice versa, because they are of no use to you. What is there to see in what Dada calls a refuse?
The rule of attraction is that attraction occurs towards only certain person, the attraction does not occur with everyone. Now, I will tell you what causes this attraction.
If no sexual attraction occurs in this life, yet when you see a certain young man and you feel, 'This man is so handsome, he is so good looking'. Then you have instantly sown a seed for your next life. With this, sexual attraction will occur in your next life.
it. It is simply there. It is your state. It remains as the foundation of your awareness, 'I am pure Soul'. The relative circumstances unfolding in front of you may make it seem that you have forgotten it, but no, it is there. That is nischaya.
Inner visual contemplation (niddidhyasan) occurs the moment you think, 'This woman is good looking or this man is good looking'. It lasts that long. Then one becomes that. Therefore, this problem arises only when you look, does it not? Instead, keep your eyes focused downwards and do not make any eye contact. The whole world is a trap. There is no freedom after having been trapped. You will go through life after life and not see an end to it.
A husband who remains yours and who never forgets you for a second is a worthy husband. But this will never happen. So then what good is a useless husband like that who is disloyal ?
Therefore, in this day and age, people are not hungry for love. They are hungry for sex. Those who are hungry for love, they will not mind if they do not have sex at all. You have to do darshan of and revere such a person. These people are hungry for sex. Hunger for sex means refuse.
If there is an intense love then there is a worldly life for him. Otherwise the living for sex is refuse. It is then like one of the necessity of nature, like going to the toilet. Isn't this nature's call? Sita and Rajchandraji were married, weren't they? When Sita was abducted, Rama's chit was in Sita and Sita's chit was in Rama. They were not able to have sex for fourteen years, yet their chit was in each other. This is called a marriage. Otherwise these are called nature's forces. Nature's necessity!
Therefore, it is a problem only if you have a husband, is it not? But if you have taken a vow of brahmacharya, then there
Nischaya means that you do not need to be reminded of