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Respected grand parents! If you smoke cigars, give it up from right now else you will fall into the eyes of your grandson. Our small, tiny children know what to do and what not to do? My dear! Before listening to the sermons of a saint, listen to your own children what they want to tell you, what type of inspiration, they want to give you. It is possible that an eighty years old fellow may not know what your eight yrs. child may know regarding what to do and what not to do? If I ask about smoking to a child of eight yrs. whether it is useful or harmful and it is good or bad to abuse someone. He will reply, 'harmful and bad thing'. Now, decide yourself who is wiser, a child of 8, or a grand person of 80?
Remember, as we are, as we will be able to give manners to our family. A civilized person will teach the civilized manners whereas an uncultured or drunkard will teach abusing words. A mannered person will use mannered language while a drunkard will keep on quarrelling. Therefore, it is said that observe or supervise the manners of family when you marry your child instead of going through the colour, complexion and external charm and prosperity of the girl. No doubt colour and complexion play a great role but successful survival is dependent on the manners that the girl possesses. At last the fruit will appear according the seed sown.
You may understand this incident this way. A girl of ten used to come to meet us. She would come, greet us and sat quietly. I thought she greeted me considering a preceptor but that time, if some other persons were sitting there, she would pay respects to them also. One thing more, she would reply everything adding respectable words like Sir and would address respectfully even to the youngers. One day I asked her about the secrets of her manners and the reasons for showing respects to all. That tiny girl replied, “Sir, my
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