Guru and Disciple

Author(s): Dada Bhagwan
Publisher: Mahavideh Foundation

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keeps getting aggravated thinking, 'This disciple is not likely to do anything.' At the same time, the disciple lives in fear of the guru. Now how and when can this be resolved? This is precisely why he keeps only three disciples; it is all he can handle! All others will come and do darshan and leave.
In the Kramic path, inner frustration does not leave until the very end. Both the guru and the disciple experience frustration! This frustration is a penance, hence there will be radiance on their faces. When we agitate (heat) impure gold, it will begin to slowly purify. Will you not begin to see the real gold?
The rift between the guru and the disciple
Questioner: Ordinarily is there not a distance between the guru and the disciple, or do they have oneness between them?
Dadashri: If they have oneness, then they would both attain salvation. But here, if the disciple were to break a cup, the guru will not refrain from becoming aggravated. If the guru and the disciple were fortunate enough to have this oneness, then both of them would attain salvation. However, things are not that way. In fact, this world is such that one loses even the trust he has for his own self, so how is he going to trust his disciples? And if the disciple happens to break something, the guru will glare at him with red, angry eyes.
What conflicts and troubles! All day long they have conflicts! They cannot even ask their guru to help them get rid of their conflicts. In reality, one should even ask the guru, 'Sahib, why are you getting irritated, being a guru?
Questioner: But how can we ask the guru that? We cannot ask the guru such things!
Dadashri: What good is the guru if you cannot ask him that? If, as a guru, you have differences with your disciples, would you not ask yourself what kind of a guru you are? If you cannot
get along with one disciple, then how will you deal with the world? You go around advising everyone, "Son, do not quarrel or fight, while you have left behind your family, there is no one around you that is dear to you, but even then why do you quarrel with your disciples? You have not given birth to him so why are there kashayas between the two of you? Blood relatives have kashayas with each other. This poor boy is an outsider who has become your disciple and even here, you continue to do kashaya?
What would a guru say if the disciple misplaced his book? He would criticize his disciple by saying, 'You do not have any sense, you are not careful.' Then how does the disciple respond?
Do you think I ate the book? It must be here somewhere. If it is not in your sack then it must be under your bed.' But the disciple makes a statement like, 'Do you think I ate your book? That is what he says. It is better to quarrel at home than to quarrel with a disciple. He would be better off being a disciple to his wife because, even though she tells him off, she will at least feed him some delicious snacks! A little independence is necessary, is it not? What can you do when you find such a guru, when, despite taking so much care of him, he speaks so foolishly?
Questioner: Is there not a difference between a rebuke from the wife and that of the guru? The wife chastises for selfish reasons and the guru chastises out of unselfish motives.
Dadashri: There is never a selfless (niswarth) guru. There are no selfless people in this world. They may appear without selfish interests, but subtly they are selfishly preparing for themselves. They are all selfish and everything is deceitful and without substance. If one understands this just a little bit, he would recognize it.
Besides, disciples and guru are always quarreling with one another. They are both immersed in quarrels all day long. If we go to visit the guru and ask him what is wrong, he will say, "That man is no good, I have found a terrible disciple! We should not let the