Guru and Disciple

Author(s): Dada Bhagwan
Publisher: Mahavideh Foundation

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The Guru and the Disciple
The Guru and the Disciple
Questioner: I am married.
Dadashri: So go ahead make her your guru. At least she is right there in your home. She will stay with you no matter what.
Questioner: What good does that do? Don't we need a Gnani?
Dadashri: What are the gurus out there going to give you? Besides, every man has made his wife a guru. It is just that no man would admit it!
Questioner: But one cannot say that in front of everyone!
Dadashri:No one says anything, but I understand people's nature. I even tell young men that they appear wise because their guru (wife) has not yet come. Just wait until she comes! There is nothing wrong in you bringing home a wife. But you should have sense enough that you don't take advantage of the situation. When she cooks you good food-she makes fritters, jalebees and ladoos, etc., for you - then why not make her your guru? If you are not impressed with any gurus outside, if you do not come across a guru that captures your heart, then just tell your wife, Come, you are my guru and I am your guru.' Alas! This will bring rise to uchhado here! She will be fascinated and attracted (uchhado) to you and so will you be for her. What is the point of making someone you are not attracted to your guru? Why not make your wife your guru! What is wrong with that? God resides in her, so then it is immaterial whether she is educated or not.
So if you do not find a good guru, then you can make your wife your guru in the end! This is because it is better to do things after consulting a guru. If one does not ask, then one is likely to go astray. Therefore, you should consult your wife; ask her, 'What do you think? I will do as you tell me to.' The wife in turn should make her husband her guru. She should say, 'I will do whatever you tell me to.' It is better to do this, than to make these fraudulent people your guru, at least there is no deception at home! Therefore,
you should establish your wife as your guru. You need at least one guru, do you not?
Gurus with kashayas Questioner: I have accepted one saint as my guru. So should I dojapa (repeated chants) in his name, or in someone else's name?
Dadashri: If you feel dissatisfied and incomplete, then you can take some other name and recite it. But do you feel any dissatisfaction? There is no anger, pride, deceit and greed in you, is there?
Questioner: That happens a lot, inside. Dadashri: What about worries?
Questioner: The worries are there but they are comparatively less.
Dadashri: If you continue to have worries, what is the point of reciting that person's name? It is meaningless! What is the point of reciting that name if you experience anger, pride, deceit and greed? Others have anger, pride, deceit and greed, and so do you, therefore, your work did not get accomplished.
So now, change your guru. For how long do you want to hang on to that one shop? If you want to stay there then stay there, but I am giving you this advice. There is no problem if your work (spiritual progress) is getting done there. If you stay in one place, then there is no need to meddle with another place.
If there is separation due differences of opinion (matbhed), then what did the guru do for you? A guru is the one who relieves all suffering.
Questioner: Everything you say about the guru is well and good, but here I have accepted him as my guru through inner inspiration