Guru and Disciple

Author(s): Dada Bhagwan
Publisher: Mahavideh Foundation

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(matbhed) with your wife leaves, know that you have found a real guru, or else you will continue to have matbhed. You will continue to have conflicts with your wife every day. What good is it when no lasting change occurs after having meta guru?
have any self-interest and he does not ask for any money from you. He provides complete solutions to your problems and questions. He will not strike back even if you were to irritate him or make a mistake. What would you call a person who strikes at you? An attacking cobra! I have told you all the different ways to recognize a guru.
You should assess him before you make him your guru. What is the point of making just anyone your guru?
Questioner: How can one know what he is going to be like?
One's conflict at home does not go away, one's weakness causing inner discord does not go away, and yet he claims he has found a guru. You have met a guru if conflicts and discord at home come to and end, otherwise how can you say you have met a guru? Generally, people will try to pull you on their side and that is how they live life. They make you turn the ego that was on one side onto another side. If you meet a guru for six months, he will at least teach you something so that conflicts in your home will go away. Not only the conflicts in the home, but also the conflicts in the mind will go away. If conflicts continue in your mind, then you should leave that guru and find another one.
What good is the guru if your worries and marbhed do not go away and conflicts and complications at home do not stop? You have to tell that guru, 'At home I still become angry with my children: stop that for me, otherwise next year I will go elsewhere. Can you say at least this much to a guru or not? What do you think? Otherwise, these gurus keep getting the sweets (money and respect from disciples) regularly in installments. So this ignorance continues, not just in India, but everywhere else too.
Test the guru before you make him your guru
Questioner: Is there a sure way of recognizing and being sure that a person is a real guru?
Dadashri: Have you ever seen the old worthless coins with King Edwards and the Queen on it? People do not have faith in those coins even when we assure them that they are exchangeable as valid currency. So they tap them on a rock or metal. You fool! You cannot tap Lakshmiji (money; Goddess of wealth), this way. They still do. Why? They do it to check if the coin is solid or hollow. If it rings, they will put it away in the safe and discard it if it sounds hollow. So tapping a rupee is a way to test it. Similarly, you should always test a guru.
Questioner: Do we have to examine him?
Dadashri: Test him! You may not know how to examine him. How can a child do an examination of a person with the caliber of a professor?
Questioner: What is the difference between a test and an examination?
Dadashri: As far as recognizing one, a real guru is someone who, even if you insult him, does not have to forgive you; forgiveness is an attribute that is spontaneous and natural within him. Forgiveness is constant no matter how much you beat him or insult him. He is very simple and guileless (sarad). He does not
Dadashri: There is a great difference. In testing, all you have to say is, 'Sir, I do not feel that anything you have said so far is true.' He will become 'tested' immediately. He will strike back and you will understand that he is aggressive and therefore this *shop' is not for you. Change the shop! Will you not know that you need to go to a different shop?