$JES 983 Being Jain In College An Experiential Guide 2nd Edition

Author(s): Sonali Vakharia
Publisher: JAINA Education Committee

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RELATIONSHIPS
way that may across as inappropriate or threatening will stick with you for a long time. From a Jain perspective, use Anekäntaväda when dealing with others even when you may not agree with them, and avoid the creation of mental, verbal, or physical violence.
Your behavior towards yourself and others is a sign of respect towards yourself, and your body. Your body is a shell which holds your soul, and the ultimate goal of a Jain is to improve the soul and see beyond this body and its pleasures. Being respected comes a long way and respecting yourself will attract respectful people.
Dating Scene
In today's world, relationships and dating can be stressful. To help alleviate the confusion, practicing mindfulness and taking care of yourself should be your first priority.
There may be instances where your values are questioned, try to stay true to your values and take time to know yourself. This is especially important prior to starting a relationship to know who you are what you like. Spend time alone doing activities you enjoy and give you life. Practice self-love and know what makes you happy.
With online dating and fewer opportunities to meet in-person, dating can seem overwhelming and superficial at times.
Take time to journal qualities you would appreciate and want in a significant other. Take time to also know what qualities you are not looking for.
When starting a relationship, be authentic, present, and honest. Try to practice vulnerability and share your own values. There is no one more beautiful than yourself - always remember that! Take time to learn one another and know what makes the other person tick. This takes time and try to not to rush this phase. With this, define and set your boundaries. Establishing healthy boundaries helps both partners feel comfortable and be more aware in your relationship. Be direct and practice self-awareness in such instances.
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