Spirituality in Speech

Author(s): Dada Bhagwan
Publisher: Mahavideh Foundation

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Spirituality in Speech
Spirituality in Speech
it is in the home, even when there are many people in the household?
mistakes that hurt the other person, and ask for his forgiveness. It is fine even if you say it in your mind. If the atikraman was done in the mind, all you have to do is pratikraman.
Questioner : When you find yourself in a bad situation and someone speaks and behaves very badly towards you, you react with a lot of anger and say angry words to him but from within you feel that whatever is happening is wrong. Which carries higher responsibility, the spoken words or the reaction in the mind?
Dadashri : The verbal attacks will give results right away because the other person will retaliate immediately, but the mental attacks will perpetuate. The results will come later because essentially what you have done is planted a seed, which is the new cause (i.e. a new karma). In order to prevent the new cause from becoming established. If you erred through the mind, then you should do pratikraman through the mind also. Atikraman of the mind is a cause and atikraman of the spoken words is an effect. Both call for pratikraman.
9. Marital And Family Disharmony
Dadashri : You should neither leave things as they are nor should you interfere.
Questioner: How would that be possible?
Dadashri : How can you interfere? Interference occurs because of the ego. It is the ego's madness!
Questioner: If work needs to be done in the house, can we tell him to do it?
Dadashri : Yes, but there are ways of saying it.
Questioner : You mean we should not become emotional when we say it?
Dadashri : At other times, do you not speak sweetly to him that even before you are finished he understands?
As a human being, if one does not interfere in the present flow of life, it would run very smoothly. However, unfortunately one does nothing but interfere constantly from the moment he or she wakes up.
They quarrel about the most trivial things. The wife will complain, “You don't even rock the baby. The baby has been crying for so long." The husband will retaliate, "Did I have to rock the baby when he was in your womb? Now that he is out, you have to tend to it." Now tell me, what is this woman likely to do if she is not submissive?
Questioner : What should I do about the strong and abrasive speech?
Dadashri : Harsh language in itself is interference! If your speech is harsh then you have to use additional words like, "I request you...." or "I am asking you to please do this much." All you have to do is use such words before your proceed.
Questioner : When we say, for example, "Hey, take this plate from here,' or when we say it more gently, "Take this plate from here,' ...the force behind the way we say it...
Dadashri : Only when you say it with authority are you interfering
Questioner: So we must speak gently.
Dadashri : It would be fine to speak in a gentle tone, but some people will still create interference even if they use a
Questioner : When you say that one should not interfere, does that mean that one has to leave everything haphazard as