Spirituality in Speech

Author(s): Dada Bhagwan
Publisher: Mahavideh Foundation

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Spirituality in Speech
Spirituality in Speech
ask herself why she mistreats you. She too suffers, but what can one do? When I ask men whether they chose their wives or the wives chose them, they tell me that they chose their wives. If that is the case, how can they blame their wives? What can the wife do if things turn out contrary to the expectations of her husband? Where can she go?
You should not say even a word to anyone in this world. To do so is a major disease. Each one of us have brought our own accounts from the past. What is the point in interfering? I have given you the knowledge of vyavasthit for this very reason.
You only have to do one thing in this world. No one should say anything to anyone. Peacefully eat whatever comes your way and go about your business. Do not say anything. You do not tell anything to your son or husband, do you?
It is better to limit your speech. There is no merit in saying anything to anyone. On the contrary, when you say something, it makes matters worse. If you tell your son, 'Be on time for the train,' he will be late and if you do not tell him anything, he will be on time. Things have a tendency to work out even without you. You are exercising your ego unnecessarily. Your child will begin to improve from the day you stop nagging him. He does not value your words. It is because of your unpleasant words that he becomes agitated; your own words bounce back to you because they are simply not accepted by them. You only need to take care of your responsibility towards them, which is to feed and clothe them. There is no worth in saying anything else. Are you able to conclude that there is no merit in saying anything?
Questioner : Children do not understand their own responsibility.
Dadashri : The responsibility is in the hands of vyavasthit. Children do understand their responsibility. You do not know
how to talk to them hence interference is created through your speech. Your speech is only effective if children accept what you say. When parents speak recklessly, children will behave recklessly
Questioner: Children snap back and speak rudely to us.
Dadashri : Yes, but how are you going to stop them? Things will only get better if all of you stop using attacking speech with each other.
Once the discord starts in the mind, its link will continue and you will form an opinion about that person. At such a time you should remain silent and try to gain his confidence. Nobody is going to improve through your constant griping. Only the Gnani's speech can improve things. Parents need to be extremely cautious where children are concerned. Is it really necessary for parents to say anything? No it is not. This is precisely the reason why God has said that the living should live like the dead. Things that are spoilt can be improved, but only the Gnani is capable of that. You should not try to improve things on your own. All you have to do is follow my Agnas. Only those who have improved themselves can improve others.
Questioner: How can you tell if a person has improved?
Dadashri : You can tell that you have improved when the person you are scolding feels love in your scolding. Your child will feel his father loves him deeply even though he is being scolded. So scold them, but do it in a loving manner, only then will they improve. Here nowadays, if a professor were to scold a student, the student would be ready to beat him.
You should always continue your efforts to improve the other, but avoid those efforts, which elicit a negative reaction. If they are hurt by what you say, then you cannot regard it as an effort on your part. Your attempts should be internal and done in a subtle manner. If you do not know how to make overt