Spirituality in Speech

Author(s): Dada Bhagwan
Publisher: Mahavideh Foundation

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Spirituality in Speech
Spirituality in Speech
efforts, you should do it in a subtle manner. If you do not want to scold them too much, just be brief and tell him, "Such behavior does not suit our family. Just say only this much. You have to say something but you should know how to say it.
If you try to improve others when you have not improved, you only end up spoiling them further. It is easier to improve yourself than to improve others. It is meaningless to improve others when you have not.
Rebuke and scolding leads a person to avoid telling the truth and resort to deceit. Deceit (kapat) arises in the world because of the fear of reprimand and rebuke. Reprimanding others is the highest ego; it is a mad ego. Censuring is only useful when it is not coupled with prejudice.
At certain times, do you not speak pleasantly? You do so when you speak with your boss or your superiors. But you use harsh language with those who work under you. You criticize and scold them all day long. Your entire speech becomes ruined because there is ego behind it.
There is nothing in this world worth saying. Whatever we say, is ego. The entire world is with an internal regulator.
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not saying anything, his father has accepted it. Children fall apart because you do not say anything to them. You have to tell them everything but it has to be in a dramatic manner (like an actor in a play). You have to sit with him at night and talk to him, explain things to him. Children need to be shaken up a little, now and then. Although they have some good qualities, you have to shake them a little. Is there anything wrong in doing so?
Many fathers tell their son, 'You never listen to me.' I tell them, 'They do not like your speech. If they did, they would listen to you.' The foolish man! You do not know how to be a father. What do you expect? Just look at what has become of the people in this current time cycle of Kaliyug! How wonderful the parents were in Satyug!
In 1952 a man started telling me, 'This government is bad. It must be dissolved. He has been telling me this same things from 1952 till 1962. Then I told him, 'You tell me this everyday. Has anything changed over there? Has your speech brought any results?' He replied, No, none at all.' Then I told him, "Then why are you singing the same song, everyday? A radio is better than you."
We should stop saying anything if it brings no results. We are the ones who are foolish, we do not know how to say things, and therefore we should stop. Such speech does not bring any results and it only worsens our mind and our soul. Why would anyone do such a thing?
Questioner : What should a father do if his son does not listen to him?
Dadashri : Accept it as, 'It is my fault' and close the matter. When the fault is yours, is it any wonder that he does not listen? How is it possible that the son will not listen if you are a good father? The fact is that you do not know how to be a father.
A bank manager once came to me and told me, 'I remain absolutely calm at home. No matter what wrong they have done, I do not say a word to my wife or my children.' I told him, 'You are the ultimate fool. You are not worth anything in this world. He thought that Dada would be very happy with him and reward him. The fool! Can there be a reward for this? When your child does something wrong, you have to talk to him, 'Why did you do that. Do not do it again. You have to caution him appropriately; speak to him in a make-believe way, as if you mean it (show emotions without being emotional) otherwise he will think whatever he is doing is fine because by