Spirituality in Speech

Author(s): Dada Bhagwan
Publisher: Mahavideh Foundation

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Spirituality in Speech
Spirituality in Speech
reacts even more negatively?
Dadashri : Then you should stop saying anything to him. When you realize that he is stubbom by nature, you should stop it. If he has the misconception of, 'The one who gives in is the weak one' then you should stay away from him. Then, whatever happens is correct. But resolve everything with those who are straightforward and easy to deal with. Can you not tell who in your household is easy to get along with and who is difficult?
Questioner : If the other person is not straightforward, should we sever relationships with him?
Dadashri : Do not sever it. Worldly interactions are not such that they break through you breaking them. You should just remain silent and then one day he or she will get angry and bring about a resolution. If you remain quiet, then one day she will get angry and ask you, 'You do not say anything anymore. You have not said anything for so many days,' when she gets angry, you will resolve things. What else can you do? There are so many different kinds of iron; I understand them all. Certain iron will become malleable when heated, others need to be left in the kiln and will straighten with just a few strokes of a hammer. There are so many different kinds of irons, the soul within is the pure soul. The soul within is the paramatma (the Supreme Soul) and iron is iron. These are all elements.
One day ask your wife with a lot of respect if she would cook you something nice to eat and see what happens.
Questioner : It will make her day! She will be very happy!
Dadashri : She will be very pleased, but you do not communicate with her even ordinarily. It is as if you have to pay for every word you say to her! Do you have to go out and buy the words?
Questioner : No, but my authority as a husband will diminish!
Dadashri : Goodness gracious! Your authority as a husband will diminish! You have taken on this powerful position and you are not even certified' for it! It would be a different matter if you had the qualifications!
When a husband and wife fight with their neighbor, they fight side by side and are united and the unity between the two is visible, but in their own home they quarrel and fight with each other. Their unity breaks down and they criticize each other and become verbally abusive towards each other.
Would you fight with a member of your family even if he were to raise his fist at you? No, you would not. People should live as one united family. Even if your wife gets angry with you and scold you, after a while you should tell her that no matter how angry she gets with you, you do not like being away from her. You should use this imantra' to appease her, but you never speak to her this way. Do you have a problem in saying this? You may have love for her from within, but you should also declare it to her from time to time.
Even at the age of seventy-three, Hiraba (Dada's wife) would ask me to come home early. In return I would tell her that I too, did not like being away from her. I played my role to the fullest and how happy it made her feel! She would declare her feelings to me and I too, would speak accordingly. Whatever you say should be beneficial to others. What good is it if you say things that are not beneficial to others?
The laws of karma are such that if you scold your servant, your child or your wife for an hour, in your next life they will return as your husband or your mother-in-law and do the same to you. Surely we need justice? You will have to suffer the same thing. If you hurt anyone, you will have suffering throughout your life. Even if you hurt someone for just an hour, you will have to experience a lifetime worth of suffering. You will then complain about your wife ill-treating you. Even your wife will