Rays of Dharma

Author(s): Chitrabhanu
Publisher: Divine Knowledge Society

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Rays of Dharma
good for nothing and meekly submit to others, and b) those who are deeply religious and can patiently tolerate the wrong approach of others.
We come across cases where the parents have to lead a miserable life, in spite of having several children. This happens due to loss of tolerance and absence of compromising spirit. Differences are bound to be there between two generations; they cannot be suppressed by force. It is necessary to settle them with mutual understanding. Differences can be put to rest by accepting the truth of others' views.
That is Syädväd. Syädväd is not merely a scriptural precept. It needs to be resorted to in every sphere of life. The precept which cannot be put to practical use, which cannot be woven into social fabric, ceases to have its importance. As such, what the enlightened persons have stated in scriptures needs to be put in practice. It should teach us to resort to compromise as and when necessary.
Let us take an illustration. In a family, the father and the son happened to be on friendly terms and used to take food together. The son once felt bad by what the father had said. Thereupon he sat away at the time of dinner. Instead of reproaching him, the father adopted a conciliatory approach. He took his plate where the son was sitting and started eating by his side. That helped in getting over the tension while satisfying the son's ego.
Ego prompts us to be emotional in asserting our point of view without giving the opportunity to others to express their views. Instead of insisting on our views, we should invite the opponent to express his views first. That takes wind out of his emotions and then we can explain to him our point of view with love and affection. It would be helpful in convincing him of our view. Many people realize the importance of this approach, but they find it hard to put into practice.
There was a millionaire, who happened to be miserly. He was constantly worrying about increasing his wealth and about protecting the same. Once he was sitting on sea-shore worrying about his ships that had gone abroad. That time a generous person arrived and noticed
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