Marriage

Author(s): Natubhai Shah
Publisher: UK Jain Academy

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C = Commitment
Marriage is a commitment of one imperfect person to another imperfect person. Without this kind of commitment no marriage today can expect to survive.
R = Responsibility
Responsibility as well as commitment are two of our greatest needs in today's world. Each partner is responsible for his or her own happiness, reactions and feelings. Nobody else can make us happy. If we haven't found happiness before marriage, marriage won't provide it. Happiness is a by-product of maturity. For that, each one of us is responsible. Only happy people make happy marriages.
E = Effective communication
Another secret for any successful relationship is knowing how to communicate effectively. Effective communication is based on knowing our thoughts, desires, motives and feelings - being honest with them and expressing them creatively. People who deny or suppress their inner feelings and true desires fail to communicate effectively and can never discover true intimacy.
T= Time management
A child whose parents never spend sufficient time with him or her feels unwanted and unloved. It's the same with a marriage partner. Time - in quantity as well as quality - is needed for any wholesome relationship to flourish.
S= Spiritual commitment
Research has shown that families who are committed to a strong religious faith have a much greater chance of staying together.
Every marriage is unique and the rituals associated with marriages vary throughout the world and within individual religious traditions. Some marriages will involve the couple and a few witnesses others may include whole communities with hundreds of guests. However, at the heart of all marriages are the promises that each of the partners make to each other publicly. Indian marriages are often known for their opulence and vibrancy but in reality this is only the outward sign and underneath the outward gloss and glamour of the wedding ceremony are lifelong promises and commitments. Many religions in India regard marriage as more of a religious ritual than a social or legal affair. They are considered to be a perfect blend of traditions, values, celebrations and soulful affair of the merger of two souls and also beautiful display of love, concern, commitment, and emotion. Muslim wedding are also celebrated on a grand scale; Muslim families follow the traditional way of wedding, most of them follow the same customs and rituals in Nikah (wedding).
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